My boyfriend of 18 months and I had a massive fight last night.He claims I always put him last and make him feel bad about himself and I couldn't agree less.Examples:
He was sick with the flu for 3 weeks and I didn't go see him but talked to him on the phone.What else was I supposed to do?If I went over there I could have caught it too.
He was in a car accident 3 months ago and ended up with a broken arm and leg and a concussion.He got mad at me because when I got the call from the hospital at like 7 am,I was sleeping off a night of partying and didn't go to see him until 6pm that day.Did he want me to drive over there half-asleep?He claims I put him down all the time in front our friends.I may talk about hooking up with other guys in front of him but it's all said in good fun and everyone but him takes it that way.He also keeps getting mad when I flirt with my ex.My ex and I are just like that.It's harmless fun and nothing more.
He's threatening to dump me if I don't change.
2007-03-20 02:20:48 · 18 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First I'd like to say forgive me for answering your question since i am not a guy (thank God). Now to answer your question, you are so disrespectful! you don't love or care for him. He should have dumped your ass, not the other way around. How can you defend yourself with such as pathetic excuses as "i didn't go because i didn't want to get sick or i was half asleep". I don't think you make a good friend let alone a girlfriend. If my Friend was to call me at 3am, i would be there in a heart beat, let alone my boyfriend. It seems to me that you absolutely do not care about him and he deserves better. Any one that post an answer saying you deserve better probably didn't read your questions thoroughly or they're as self-centered as you!!!
Get over yourself and start being a people's person or the same thing will happen to you and then you see how cruel you were to those around you.
2007-03-20 02:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by liza246 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's in all probability in effortless terms some quirky interior shaggy dog tale, the guy sounds slightly on weird and wonderful area already. in case you get the entire "preppy, commonplace" experience, and you notice him with persons, that's basically approximately a undeniable ingredient he's screwing with you. And to all the different adult men: i'm no longer in refrain, nor will I ever be. besides the shown fact that, you ought to have some appreciate for him. given which you have in all probability have been given a sort of like 3 notes, and he's an entire alto.
2016-10-02 10:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by ghalieh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, how insensitive can you be? OK, I'm playing a little bit. Why couldn't you nurse him back to health? You could have baked some broth or something. 3 weeks and no signs of the person who is supposed to be siginificant in his life and you were in the same town. For shame! Probably flirting with the ex weren't'cha? Men are big babies when we are sick. No wonder he does not like it when you flirt with your ex. I don't know a guy who would like that period. You'd trip if he flirted with his ex. Yes you would! He was expecting a little too much after the wreck. I'll give you that. Other than that, you need to figure out how much he means to you. At least he told you how he feels instead of going out and giving some non-descript chick the business. That means he cares about you and he is not getting what he wants in return. Why you gotta do him like that. HE AIN'T DONE NOTHING TO NOBODY AND LOOK WHAT HE GETS IN RETURN. I'm sorry I was trippin'. You get what I'm saying though! You need to be a better girlfriend and quit playing around with him like that. WOMEN ALWAYS TALKIN ABOUT AINT NO GOOD MEN OUT THERE AND WHEN YOU FIND ONE YOU WANNA PLAY AROUND WITH HIS HEART AND STUFF AND THAT AIN'T NECESSARY. Ok I'm gonna quit, I'm havin too much fun with this. For real. Be a good girlfriend.
2007-03-27 19:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see turn the page over and put yourself in his shoes howw would you feel if he did these things to you??? i would have made some soup and taken it over to him,at the same time i would have taken a flu shot. about the car acc.i would have called someone to take me to the hosp. or took a cab. as far as you putting him down in front of friends ,that only shows that you are insecure about yourself and making him look bad makes you feel in charge.as far as flirting with your ex. well i think i would probably start flirting with some other girls and tell you that it was just in fun.. then i'd dump your ass out of the car in the middle of the desert somewhere ...because of the fact that if your with someone that loves you and supposedly u love him then you would go to great lengths to see that their needs are met each and every day. you don't say anything about him doing you wrong. so i take it your the problem.i would dump you in a heart beat.then laugh at you when you came back crawling in from the desert.hope you let him read this.number one rule is you don't do or say anything to hurt the person that you supposedly love in fun or not.
2007-03-20 02:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by mybaby_poohbear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.And frankly I don't blame him. I would have dumped you long ago. If you talk about hooking up with other guys and flirting with your ex in front of him of course he feels this way. You are to stupid to realize that you hurt him by your actions and words and he deserve better.
What if he talked about hooking up with other woman and flirting with an ex in front of you ? How would you handle that huh ??
You would fly off the handle and say he doesn't love you anymore. I hate women who play mind games with an man boyfriend or not. You got in the accident and he was sleep off anight of partying and he didn't show up until 6pm when he heard about at 7am...you would totally scream at him asking why he didn't come sooner and cry cause he didn't love you.
I say this guy has put up enough with your crap. Grow up !!!
2007-03-20 02:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I am on his shoes...I would have dumped...a long time ago....actually he is in love or he is serious with the relationship with you..,but not you.... and you know he met with an accident .and he was in the hospital and ..How can you sleep after hearing about the accident....at least as a friend/human being.,you should have go to the hospital immediately...., and let me ask you another question suppose if you are in love., would you mind if your bf flirt with his ex/or with another girl in front of you? if you don't want to continue/or not happy with him/relationship then let him know that..,
2007-03-27 23:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he isn't being unreasonable. It sounds like you are going out of your way to make him jealous and to make him feel bad, and I'm sure he doesn't deserve that.
Do you think he would take care of you when you were sick? Or visit you immediately if he heard you were in the hospital?
If you knew that flirting with your ex made your boyfriend feel bad, you shouldn't do it. Simple as that. I'm sure he'd do the same for you in a similar situation.
2007-03-20 02:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you are seeking approval for your very inconsiderate behavior. If you really cared about the guy, the possibility of catching something wouldn't have stopped you from caring for him (it never stopped me from caring for my girlfriend.)
And when someone is in an automobile accident, you rush to their side, hangover or not. Waiting another 11 hours to see him is outrageous. (Couldn't miss your soaps that afternoon?)
And flirting with your ex - why should he put up with it? It makes him feel like he's so insignificant, you don't even know he's there.
My advice to him is to look for someone else. After all, you couldn't care less.
2007-03-20 02:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you would have been gone a long time ago. let me guess you are a high maintenance girl that only thinks of herself. at least that is the way it sounds to me. I can't even put what i really think should happen because i would get a violation notice.
2007-03-20 02:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by hot_john_dog1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Partisan - I'd have dumped you a long time ago. Re-read your answers. Is that how YOU would want to be treated? I'm thinking probably not.
2007-03-20 02:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by tomcatrider01 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋