back in high school there was a boy who loved me but i kept pushing me away, at the end he pushed me away because he was hurt by actions. now so many years later, we met again online. He told me that he missed out on not being with me and that if we had gotten together he would have married me. He kept telling me how much he thought of me through the years..but when i told him how i much i cared about him..he shut down and refused to ever admit that he cares for me again. he recently got divorced and now lives with a woman who he says he is not in love with but feels obligated because she helped him through a rough time. we still email each other etc..and now i am in europe where he lives, and i keep emailing him saying let's get together and your girlfriend too for drinks but all he does is read my emails again 8 or 10 times and then after reading them 10 times he will write back saying I am too busy, sick, traveling etc....why is he having a hard time seeing me?
2007-03-20 02:16:03 · 9 answers · asked by monalisa79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he is afraid of falling for you and having his feelings hurt by being pushed away again. He may not be sure whether you are sincere this time, or may feel like seeing you would bring back old feelings of hurt from the past. And then the fact that he is living with someone complicates things. He might not be in love with her, but you also don't know how serious she feels the relationship is between them and how she would react to you if you were to all go out. He may think that she might start some drama or something. I wouldn't persist. When he is ready to see you let him to approach you about it.
2007-03-20 02:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to examine what is missing from your own life that you would chase a relationship that is so hard that has so much baggage? He will have changed a lot since you knew him as I am sure you have. Find someone you can really be intimate with that lives close to you. Europe is a big place, it's not like you can just pop out for a meal to see how you feel about him now. Besides, I seriously doubt he is living with someone out of pure loyalty and debt to her. If you did start something with him he wouldnt't leave her the next day, and while he was still there, you would go crazy wondering if he was still sleeping with her - you only have his word on what their relationship is really like.
2007-03-20 09:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he doent want to make the choice of breaking his heart again...maybe he just doesnt wonna go down that road....hes prolly scared that if he sees u again he will fall inlove w/ u and he thinks that would be a mistake cuz u will play ur mind games
2007-03-20 09:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by queen bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is afraid of getting hurt again. If you really like this guy you are gonna have to prove yourself to him. And if he doesn't love this woman and is not married to her then I see no reason why you can't still try to get him
2007-03-20 09:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's with someone else and doesn't want to revisit old emotions.
You hurt him. Let him move on and stop torturing the poor guy.
2007-03-20 09:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dont want to lose u and his current gf even email he want to have contact with u but in short way he dont want to see u in person why dont u understand his reason he want u to feel what u did to him before. maybe u just waiting for some reason why u have been ignore him.. and if u tell him maybe he going to see u.
2007-03-20 09:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE HE DOENT WANT TO... HE CANT FACE YOU WITH ALL THE BSSS HE HAS BEEN TELLING YOU... PLUS IF IT DINT HAPPEN BEFORE WHY TRY TO MAKE IT HAPPEN NOW... WHATS MEANT TO BE WILL BE...
2007-03-20 09:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by BUTTERFLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes in love with his wife. let it go
2007-03-20 09:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thast werid. maybe he is scared of commitment again. :]
2007-03-20 09:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋