question - ok have jsut won two tickets top go and see the tweenies on saturday. instead of me going with my daughter, do you think i should let my partner take her? although we have been living together about a year she is still sometimes a bit wary, do you think this might bring her closer to him?
2007-03-20 02:10:31 · 13 answers · asked by lisaviduka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just so you know, my daughter does like, him, she cuddles him and allsorts but alot of the time if im around she doesnt want to know him......jsut wondering, no need to get nasty about it!
2007-03-20 02:17:27 · update #1
How old is your daughter? It could be that she is just used to you. I find this with my son from a previous relationship. He likes my current partner and will cuddle etc..... but prefers being with me. I think this is because I am with him all day where as my partner works.
Talk to your partner about this, if both him and your daughter are in agreement then I think it would be a good idea for him to take her. As the only way to build a better bond between him and your daughter is for them to spend quality time together.
Goodluck x
2007-03-20 02:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by vixwood1979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I reckon that if you have been together for a year now she should be ok enough with him to take her. If she seems wary when you are around that is because she has the choice of you or him, on this occasion dont let her have the choice! She will be delighted to go and see the show so I should imagine she will have no preference who goes along. Dont worry about it and wait for her to come back with all the excitement!!
2007-03-20 02:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jaksi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think this is a good idea. Why don't you take her and then arrange something next week for the three of you. Go to the park, to the cinema, you can find an opportunity for them to go off together to get ice cream or popcorn or something. Start off with 5 or 10 minutes and then build it up from there.
I don't beleive she deosn'nt like your partner, she is just wary, like you said.
I'm sure she will come to trust him, it will just take time.
2007-03-20 02:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that your partner is good with your daughter then i think this is just what they need,and i think this will help your daughter learn to trust your partner. This will bring them closer together,and allow you to have a well earned rest. Good luck!
2007-03-20 02:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute ! why should he not take her lets face it it looks like you are trying to set up a family here so if he wants to take her tell her thats how its going to be and if she is interested in the tweenies she wont care who takes her.
2007-03-20 02:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this sounds lovely but bear in mind pre schoolers may be a little freaked out by this occassion even if she went with you, so why don't you try to get another ticket
2007-03-20 02:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nobody200 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your child will become comfortable with him in her own time. No need to arrange for them to spend time alone. Nowadays, you really cant get that comfortable with people, they may harm your child. It would be good for YOU to spend that time with her so she knows that she doesnt have to share you with him all the time. Give her some One on One time. She'll appreciate it.
2007-03-20 02:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No and never. Not in your absence. Its definitely not the right move. If you want your partner to go with your daughter make sure you're there for her too!
2007-03-20 02:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't try to force her its hard for kids to accept new people in their life a year isn't very long i would ask her what she wants to do and let her set the pace good luck
2007-03-20 02:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....give this time. In my opinion, I think you should be the one to take your daughter.
2007-03-20 02:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋