i love my brother i toke a bullet for him once and i will do it again but he is something els he cares about him self and him self only, he has screwed me over many times but i still keep him close to me is it time to go or should i watch over him no matter what.
2007-03-20 02:05:22 · 17 answers · asked by lee77dt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
watch over him still but confront him and tell him that if he doesn't stop being so selfish and screwing you over you won't watch over him anymore..
2007-03-20 02:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is one thing to watch over a sibling. It is another thing to take care of them. If you are constantly bailing your brother out of trouble, you may actually be enabling him a bit. If your brother does things for which there are negative consequences, but never experiences those consequences, you are not allowing the lesson of the bad choice to set in. Allow him to learn from his mistakes by seeing firsthand what his mistakes cause. If you take the bullet every time, he will never realize that the bullet hurts.
2007-03-20 02:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing you can do is for them to live their own lives and make their own mistakes. You can only do so much, but in the end it's really up to them. How long do you want to keep watching over him? What about your own life? I'm not saying you shouldn't care about him, but you should care about yourself too. Just because you love him doesn't mean he should drag you down as well. He has screwed you over many times and only cares about himself because he knows no matter what you'll always be there to clean up his mess. If he knows there's no one there to clean his mess, he might do it himself, and in the long run it's best thing you can do for him.
2007-03-20 03:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by trax2345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a good brother, family should look after each other. but enough is enough there is times you have to let go, if he is an adult then he should look after himself and not expect you to have his back at all times and at all cost. Now is time to tell him to stand on his own two feet. say listen man i love you but hey this is it your on your own i am tired of you dragging me down and using me like you do. he might get mad for a while but he will get over it.. haven't you heard the old saying " Family will be the first to screw you over before anyone else".how true it is..oh another saying " you are judged by the company keep"( hang around with )
2007-03-20 02:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by raven1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this because it sounds as if you are a good, loving brother, but you need to let him go. Some people need to find out things the hard way. Let him know that you will always be his brother and will always love him but you can't continue to bail him out of everything. Let him be and maybe he'll straighten up. Some people keep doing things and stay in trouble because they know someone will always be there to bail them out. Good luck, hope your situation gets better!
2007-03-20 02:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel he is screwing you over then dont let yourself be put in a position where that happens. You can look out for him, without being a doormat. By babying him you are preventing him from learning to stand on his own two feet, and doing him no favours, as one day you wont be there and he wont know how to look afer himself.
2007-03-20 02:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut the strings its time ur brother learned accountability for his own actions and bad decisions ur an enabler u enable him to behave the way he wants without thought of anyone but himself or the consequences its time to bite the bullet not take it it will b hard to break ur bad habit dont let him make u feel guilty or u will wind up in jail or worse dead while hes out still doing what he wants
2007-03-20 02:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there parents in the picture? Depends on your ages. If he is over 18, I say step back, let him fall on his face a few times, it would be a valuable learning experience for him. Good luck.
2007-03-20 02:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a good brother. My boyfriend's brother is the same way, he does so much for him, but he will never do for him. I say keep doing what your doing, he is family, and you will be blessed for being there fr him. Maybe he needs to mature a little bit, and you are probably heling him at this.
Tell your brother its time to grow up and be a man!
2007-03-20 02:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a brother is a brother, keep watching over him, never let him down he'll realize sooner or later what you're doin for him
2007-03-20 02:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by yurrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look out for your own well being. Apparently he doesn't care about you or himself or he would have learned his lesson. You only have one life...don't spend it being a dummy for your brother.
2007-03-20 02:09:35 · answer #11 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋