my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months. He is 19 and i am 16.about 4 months ago i got grounded for drinking and he ended up sleeping with his ex girlfriend of 2 years. He lied about everything until last week when he told me.More like i found out and he still lied about it when i asked him and then finally told me. He said he doesnt want to lose me and that he loves me and he was very sorry. It only happened once and he was crying when he told me. He seemed really sorry so i didnt break up with him. I told him if he loved me he wouldnt have done that but he still loved her then too. I thought i was pregnant the month after and so did his ex.
i know he loves me should we just fix our past and make it last or move on
2007-03-20 02:02:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he admits he doesnt deserve me .. i dont think i can live without him honestly.
2007-03-20 02:04:05 · update #1
other than that he treats me very well and is respectful.
2007-03-20 02:11:06 · update #2
i know he doesnt still talk to her. i know when he is lying and i listen to his voicemail and check his phone all the time
2007-03-20 02:13:25 · update #3
Then follow your instincts and forget the past and think about the future. Don't let him rule you and don't rule him. You'll do fine just hang in there and keep telling him how you feel. ;)
2007-03-20 02:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lefty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you like he says, he wouldn't have done what he did. I hate to tell you this but once a cheater always a cheater, and they aren't sorry for what they did, or he wouldn't have done it in the first place. I would dump him you deserve better than that piece of crapt and line of bull he is feeding you. If he didnt' want to lose you then he should have thought about that before he unzipped his pants and had a fling. He doesn't love you, you just want to think that he loves you bc, you don't want to be alone, which is perfectly normal, none of want to be alone, but if you stay with him, then you are only cheating yourself. P.S. there is no fixing the problem, what has been done has been done.
2007-03-20 09:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts but he lied and cheated. This might have been the first time you caught him but, it won't be the last time he cheats. Don't think your relationship will get better it will get worse as your trust is gone. You just gave him the go ahead to cheat because you are acting desperate. No guy of quality wants a week desperate woman. Have a little self respect and show him the door rather then be a doormat.
2007-03-20 09:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater!!! who cares if he was sorry! to tell u the truth, he prolly only cried cuz he got cought and he didnt wonna look like a fool. TRUST ME!! hes only sorry cuz he got cought!!i also think he has feelings 4 ur Ex! ur boyfriend should only love 1 person and that should be u! please trust me when i tell u all this cuz its the truth! i dont kno u but i feel really bad because im sick of this drama boyfriend girlfriend ****! thank god i have a man that will stay with me forever and that settled down with ,e....eventually u will get over him. u will find someone else and get over him,....he may be in ur heart and have feelings 4 him forever but thats normal....dump him as cuz he doesnt care 4 u...hes prolly cheating on u som more w/ her!
2007-03-20 09:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by queen bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16. I promise you can live without him. He could end up cheating on you in the future too and knowing he can get away with it because you let him the first time. I say, take a break. Let him go. "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it is yours to keep. If it doesn't, it was never meant to be."
2007-03-20 09:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lived without him before he came along...you will live without him when he is gone.
so he put on a big I'm sorry / crying act for you...big deal...if he loved you so much he would not have cheated in the first place...period.
He probably is pulling the same lies with his ex to keep her hanging on too. Don't be stupid.
be cool...
2007-03-20 09:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you need him more then he needs you, i suggest you give him a chance then at least you can say that you tried! but to be honest you both are going to put a lot in to the relationship to make it work, he humiliated you by sleeping with her but it sounds like you both are irresponible
him with the hole thing about the prenancies and you for been grounded for drinking.. this relationship will only work if you want it to
2007-03-20 09:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by zayed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 16?!? You're in WAY over your head on this one. Drinking, unprotected sex...sweetie, if you don't mature in a hurry, your life is going to be trouble.
Just concentrate on finishing high school before it's too late.
2007-03-20 09:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if iam on u i would think 100 times.. about him. coz ur grounded for drinking he sleeped with his Ex. no young lady dont be fool..u will have bf more than him.
2007-03-20 09:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him now honey he sounds like he is nothing but bad credit, unemployment and bankruptcy in your future.
find someone that treats you like a lady and takes care of you, not get you drunk and get you in trouble, GET OUT NOW!!!
2007-03-20 09:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by nivek191 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋