I was introduced to a a guy my a mutual friend. I was instantly attracted as was he. We talk on the phone every other day and we went out a couple of times. The last week or so however, he has not called. Whenever I call him, he seems happy to hear from me. When I come over to his house, we sit and talk for a while, we joke around and enjoy each other's company. He acts like a real gentleman to me, even walking me to my car when I leave his house at night. But he doesn't call like he use to. Should i walk away or am i jumping the gun? We have known each other about six weeks. In the begining he stated that he wasn't looking for a relationship, but if it happened it juse happened. What do I do?
2007-03-20 01:59:33 · 6 answers · asked by ivy-girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really want to know, you can just tell him straight out that you like him and would like to see where it goes. But if that's too much to ask, wait a bit before calling him and see if he calls because if a guy was really interested he would find/make the time to let the girl know.
2007-03-20 02:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by shere143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm there are a few possibilities, but I am not sure because I do not know the guy. The first possibility is that perhaps the guy is busy with work, school, obligations, etc. That could explain why he wouldn't want a relationship, because maybe he knew ahead of time that he wouldn't have the time to spend. Perhaps you met him during one of his less-busy times. (For example, carpenters tend to have more free time during winter months but then get super busy during summer months.)
Another possibility is that maybe he has commitment-phobia. If so, then I've been in his shoes before. Perhaps he likes you as a person and even thinks you're attractive and likes spending time with you, but just doesn't want to be tied down. Sometimes guys do not like commitments because they want to be able to meet and hook up with other girls without it being considered "cheating"(LOL I've DEFINITELY been there! When it comes to dating, I think like a guy). Perhaps he got vibes that you really liked him, so he kept his distance a little bit so that things wouldn't move along too quickly and end up in a commitment/relationship before he realized it. That's happened to me before...I'll tell myself I just want to "play the field," then I meet a really great guy, next thing you know I'm spending all my free nights dating him instead of keeping it casual and exploring all the "fish in the sea." By that point, it's sometimes hard to back out!
The third possibility could be that maybe the guy is not interested in you as more than a friend. Perhaps he acts happy to see you because he likes you as a friend, or maybe he is just being polite because he can tell that you like him and he doesn't know how to let you down. I've been in this situation too, because sometimes I'm too nice to clearly express my feelings. There were times that I knew a guy liked me but he wasn't my "type," and I would still act really happy to see him because I didn't want him to feel bad. If this is the case with this guy, then he has some assertiveness and communication problems, but those kinds of problems are common.
Either way, I wouldn't hold my breath for this guy. He already stated that he didn't want a commitment. If he changed his mind, then he would be making it a point to see you MORE, not LESS. I'd keep it as a friendship, because it sounds like he likes you, just not necessarily as more than friends. Go out there and play the field! There's a lot of other guys for you. And if the guy becomes available and/or interested, the fact that you'll be out having fun with other guys, as opposed to waiting around for him(desperation = unattractive), will make you look MORE attractive and worthwhile.
2007-03-20 02:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stated in the begining that he wasn't looking for a relationship,maybe you saw something that wasn't there.He may have liked you as a friend and you scared him away by showing interest that is more than of being just friend so just be a good friend and forget about anything more.He likes you as a friend.Good luck!
2007-03-20 02:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if a guy doesn't call you ,what else do you need to realize that he is not into you,may be he like your company as a friend and don't want to hurt your feelings,that is why he is nice .just forget about because if he like you,he would be the one calling and going to your house.
2007-03-20 02:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by realistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience is a virtue --- but perhaps you need to suggest to something other than sitting at home --- go to a movie or out for tea or whatever --- change the format . good luck
2007-03-20 02:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you maybe he doesn't want you to feel like he'll use you, the way you are writing makes me feel that HE IS THE RIGHT ONE!!! Go ahead and be HAPPY!!!!!!§§§§§
2007-03-20 02:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by yurrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋