they are getting legally separated. can we date when hes legally separated or do we have to wait until he gets a divorce. which in the army after u are legally separated u have to wait 6months to file for divorce. so can we date when they get legally separated or do we have to wait? ive tried to search online for it but i couldnt really find a deff. answer. HELP!!!!
2007-03-20 01:54:50 · 11 answers · asked by jessica_4940 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In most cases even legal separation can result in adultery being filed. Yes, technically you can date, but I would keep it at that. No staying over with him, or him with you, in other words, NO SEX, you are asking for trouble if you do.
2007-03-20 02:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to date him until you have proof positive that he is legally seperated. People use that word alot when in truth they are not seperated at all. A person who is away from their spouse can say they are seperated because in truth they are physically but that is not the whole story.
Another thing you should consider is that if he is married and he does divorce you could be his "rebound girl". He needs time to heal and know what he wants before he becomes emotionally involved with someone else. I would hate to see you hurt in this situation but it can easily happen even if he has the sincererest of hearts right now. It would be better to wait to date him until 6 mos. or so after his divorce or at least after his seperation. If you can't wait to do this then please at least wait to have sex with him because if you start having sex with him this is going to be a whole new set of problems.
The best thing I can say is to continue to be his friend. Friendships can blossom into the best romantic relationships, I mean when the person you love is also your best friend you have truly found something special.
You owe it to yourself to make sure that his heart and timing is in the right place because in truth no one is watching out for your own heart except for you. I wish you the best of luck and I do hope what I said makes some sense:)
Good luck!
2007-03-20 02:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kellie~Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off....there is no such thing as "waiting six months" to file for divorce just cause you are in the army.
He does not need to file for seperation, why doesn't he just go file for divorce? Sounds like maybe he's playing you on that one.
Secondly, even legally seperated, he is still "legally married", and is still punishable under UCMJ action, and can actually be jailed for it.
2007-03-20 02:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him the way you sense and merely be pals with him, then build to a relationship from there. there are various militia men that don't merely want a relationship fairly if he's being shipped out quickly. it takes time. tell him the way you sense and which you may opt to have a relationship with him yet are prepared to offer him time and be pals with him until he's waiting. Plus if a guy does not want a relationship it now and lower back capacity all they want is intercourse with out strings related. reliable success desire this helped
2016-11-27 00:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait until the divorce is final...that way you will know he is divorced and not playing games with you ... like we are separated and getting a divorce and then the divorce never happens and you end up hurt and alone
be cool...
2007-03-20 01:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can date with him.. what will u do if all man is married u wont come with him to drink for 1 cup of a coffe.it is only up to ur self if ur date is with sex. i guess nothing bad if u just date for some places and want to talk and sharing each other the problem. anyway u dont tell that u have realations with that guy.OR????
2007-03-20 02:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the divorce is finalised before you jump in. What if he changes his mind midway? It's best to be safe than sorry.
2007-03-20 01:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married how did you get attached to him in the first place? Sounds like it's a little late for morality
2007-03-20 01:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in all technicality you can date someone even if they're married- it's called cheating. So, why couldn't you date now?
2007-03-20 01:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by < Roger That > 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smarter to just wait!! If he can't make things work with his marriage before what makes you think that he's going to make your relationship work?
2007-03-20 01:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by brobinson2008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋