My ex bf wanted to send me a letter that he wrote 4 years ago, but he didn't send it before for some reason.. I got the letter today, and the words are very sweet.. he said he wanted me to go to Germany and live with him... there is a picture of us inside the letter (the pic when we 1st met).. But before he sent the letter he said he didn't know what was inside, he forgot.. (he found the letter when he was cleaning his room)..
I talked to him today and asked him, what he thinks about the letter, he said is sweet..
but the thing is, he said "i wrote it 4 years ago"!
I understood that what he said doesn't mean anything to him now:( iam very hurt! and disapointed..
Why he sent this damn letter to me?? should i stop talking to him??
2007-03-20 01:52:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No!!! dont stop talking to him
talk to him about it tell him how its made you feel!!!
He may surprise you or he may not but then at least you know
2007-03-20 01:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Elektra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact he actually sent the letter I think tells you that he wanted you to see and read the letter. Look at it this way, you don't go through your room or house or whatever cleaning up and then find a sealed envelope and then send it on you automatically open it and see what's inside first there could be ANYTHING in this letter so you would naturally want to know what is inside and even tho he wrote it 4 yrs ago he could say he knew it was the letter he wrote to you but never sent but then whose to say that someone hasn't tampered with the letter and put something else inside you would have to look inside.
I honestly think he has sent it to you to see what your reaction is...and see if it can lead somewhere again.
Good luck xx
2007-03-20 09:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by KT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The letter was written 4 years ago. He might still have feelings for you in the past but 4 years is a long time and feelings have faded. Things will never be the same again.
I'm pretty sure you were getting on fine with your life without him and before he sent you the letter. Why allow that letter to mess up your life now? Ignore that letter and go back to your normal life. If it makes you feel better, ignore him until you forget about the letter.
2007-03-20 08:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still talking to him anyway? Is there a hope of you getting back together? Do you want to get back together with him? I would be hurt too if he sent me a letter and then said it was wrote 4 years ago and didnt mean anything. I say ask him straight up if he still has feelings for you. If not, move on and let him be.
2007-03-20 09:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes break contact. I know that sounds harsh but sounds as though he has got over you, but you still have not got over him. The more contact you have the harder it will be for you to let go and move on. I don't know what his intentions where on sending you the letter, but I think personally it was a bit cruel, like pulling the scab of an open wound, kind of brought up and mixed up your feelings again, which is not fair. Seriously though break contact and give yourself time to get over him, and bin the letter as it will only remind you of the past.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you.
2007-03-20 09:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he would send the letter without reading it first. Maybe he just said he didnt know what it said b/c he was scared of what you would say
theres gotta be a reason he would send this to you. If it doesnt mean anything he wouldnt have sent it to you. Just from the info you gave I would say he loves you! You gotta talk to him. Do you still love him? maybe you 2 will get back together ...
good luck!
2007-03-20 08:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..oh God darling?...he wrote the letter four years ago reasonably. Things have changed for the two of you together certainly...but not so drastically that creating good feelings together couldn't occur again. I say great communication with someone starts within yourself first. Go into it with NO expectations...and you might possibly come out of it with some reasonably good results possibly. Who knows darling?...some of us guys do have some patience seriously. Maybe he's out there right now waiting for you truly...I don't know. Go and talk with him under some civil circumstances darling. If he has changed his mind after four years about you?...then it simply wasn't meant to be sweetie. People do change darling...and sometimes they turn out for the worse or the better. Don't try to pressure anyone into thinking the way that you do though darling. They have to find their own thinking with you all by themselves. That's simply the way it should be hun...not the way it always turns out. Communication will be the answer and keys to everything with anyone hun. Go communicate with him...right now! No guarantees babe...but at least you'll have a solution to your question...wouldn't you believe? Good luck to you!
2007-03-20 09:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, men are really weired, he is really selfish you of sent you that letter, he must of known wot was in it or he must of had some idea there is only 2 reasons why he sent you the letter
1 he still loves you and he just doesnt want to admit it to you,
2 he is playing with your head and he wants to hurt you and he is playing games,
if i was you i would forget that you even had the letter and move on i know you probably still love him and it hurts, you will find a really nice guy, and you will forget all about him hope this helps and i do feel sorry for you wot he has done that was just selfish of him he colud of opened the letter and read it before he gave it to you x
2007-03-20 09:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this does not mean he is playing mind games. Maybe he just found the letter and it brought back memories. maybe he still loves you and dont know how to tell you, the only way you will know is to talk to him. But even if you ask him he may be too embarrassed or proud to just come out and say "i love you!" do you still love him? would you get back with him if he wanted to? if so .. talk to him but dont just come out and say "why did you send this to me" say something like "wow, that letter brought back some memories, huh'? and "why didnt you give it to me 4 yrs ago?" feel him out. and take the conversation on from there. It sounds like you still have feelings for him & I think he does too but doesnt know how to say it!
2007-03-20 09:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys don't say what they mean. What he may have meant was he wrote it 4 yrs. ago so it may not mean anything to you now --- he didn't have the courage to send it when he wrote it. It may be that he's feeling you out to see your reaction to it without suffering possible rejection -- he's not putting himself out there like he did in the letter so he can pull back if he doesn't get the reaction he desires. Good luck!
2007-03-20 09:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess he is just being selfish to send you a letter only now. It is also not too smart of you to read it. Move on. This letter is history - 4 years old! To get emotional over a 4 year old letter is insane.
2007-03-20 08:57:16 · answer #11 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋