I am an Indian and here girls get married as virgin.My boyfriend wants me to have sex. I totally refused him. I dont want to hurt him. He tells that its not a problem and even if i marry somebody else he will not know i am virgin or not. I am totally confused and dont know what to do.I love him, but he is of other caste and there is no guarantee he will marry me. What to do
2007-03-20 01:50:23 · 13 answers · asked by chitra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't do it
guys will say anythingg to get in ur pants
plz plz plz, listen to me
i'm beggin, you have a long life ahead of you and u will not know if ur first time comes with a baby.
plz don't do it
2007-03-20 01:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your future spouse is under the same belief system as you then it has been probably drilled into his head about virgins and what to expect. And yes, men can tell if you are not a virgin. Don't have sex with this guy. If he really loved you he would respect your beliefs and stop trying to pressure you.
When you have sex for the first time it is uncomfortable and sometimes painful, more so for some. Also, you break your hymen, (cherry) and there is some blood. You can't fake that.
2007-03-20 01:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instinct and do what is right for you....not him. He will tell you anything right now to get you to have sex with him. If you aren't ready emotionally or physically then do not give in to him. This could have adverse effects on you in the future. Nobody knows you better than yourself so listen to your inner feelings and do what is best for you. Remember that no means no. He should respect your feelings and not try to push you into something you feel isn't right for you.
2007-03-20 01:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart and decicde if you believe the tradition of waitng untill marraige. You know that any man who can't respect you convictions isn't thinking of you he is thinking of himself. I am a Christian and understand that waiting untill marrige protects your emotions from being torn apart from having sex with somone who is not will to marry and commit to love you. Marrige is sacred and needs to be honored by all who believe in its purpose. If people don't believe in marrige then they could spend the rest of thier lives sleeping aound with no convictions.People in our culture think thiey can enter marrige with a history of other realtionships and then wonder why no trust is there. Keep you covictions if he loves you he will respect them also don't let any man tell you that your beliefs are our dated they just don't want to be held accountable for self control and don't try tocontrol him with your convctions let him decide for himself..best wishes
2007-03-20 02:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by java348 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in India right now, then don't do it. If, however, you are in America right now, then go for it. As long as you are both over 18, there is no law saying you can't. In America, pre-merital sex is allowed, and personally I wouldn't marry anyone unless I could sleep with them first.
2007-03-20 09:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he has to accept your decision, don't let him pressure you out, if you want to follow up with your society stuff then you'll have to refuse him, ask yourself why you should sacrifice your reputation because of somebody that won't marry you? Don't you think he's being selfish, unless you really love him
2007-03-20 02:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by yurrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your self and don`t allow your boy friend to broke your virgin . If he love you he will try to marry you now to have a good sex.
2007-03-20 02:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by abotraka777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like you would be trading in your beliefs and traditions then don't do it. don't ever trade in who you are to please anyone. but if you are the rebelious type and doesn't care about how people might judge you then do whatever the hell you want.
just a side note ... a virgin's p***y definitly feels different then someone who has been active with even one other person.
2007-03-20 01:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont wanna have sex till your married then him that he should be understanding about it and if not then dont bother with him at all...do what you feel is right
good luck
2007-03-20 01:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT. UNTIL YOU GET MARRY. YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND THAT HE NEED TO WAIT. IF HE WANTS YOU SO BAD THAT HE SHOULD MARRY YOU. HE COULD BE TELL YOU THAT HE LOVE YOU JUST TO GET YOU INTO BED. YOU NEVER KNOW HE MIT LEAVE YOU AFTER HE GET WHAT HE WONT'S. I HOPE I HELP YOU.
2007-03-20 02:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋