They take my kindness for weakness & use me for my money & beat on me, & they start dangerous false rumors about me. They even tell me to my face that they can care less about me. Is it that I'm the only college graduate in the family?
2007-03-20 01:48:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ever heard that friends are the family you choose for yourself? Turn to them for love, support and strength. You dont need to waste too much energy on people that dont support you. Look at all you have done- a college grad?!?! That took work and effort. You deserve your props. You go!
Also- you teach people how to treat you and if you let people treat you like dirt they will. Stand up for yourself, move out or away and do your thing.
2007-03-20 01:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by jeweledfruit 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if it is your siblings that treat you that way then i would say yes they are jealous of you. but if its like the older people your parents aunts and uncles then something is wrong there. they should be happy for you and happy that someone in the family is becoming successful in areas they didn't they should be proud. siblings i can understand they never like it when things like this happen and i guess i could understand cousins that are around the same age. but really everyone should be happy for you. and you are setting a good example for the younger people in the family to get their education and become something big and great. congratulations to you for being the first and hopefully you wont be the last
2007-03-20 08:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by .......... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just jealousy...
You seem to me to be a very nice person...taking all that crap from them and still being kind...
Maybe you should say "no" to them, not because you don't love them, but because you have to look out for number one (that's you)...
You don't have to like people just because they are your family... I have a sister that I don't really like but she is my sister so I do love her...
Do you live with them? Maybe you should move out if possible... cut back on the interaction and let them feel you are not going to take this abuse anymore...
I wish you luck and a great deal of wisdom!
2007-03-20 08:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you that they envy you? You can give kindness, you have material wealth, you gained your college degree which means you're intelligent - you're complete and they're not. Instead of feeling pity for yourself, pity them instead. You can face the world confidently. Can they? So don't hate them nor think ill of them. Pity them and continue to shower them with your kindness even it brings you so much pain at times. You'll have your reward in due time... Goodluck!
2007-03-20 09:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by mijastely 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they give a darn. maybe they see you as a weak person. maybe they see you as someone better then they are because you graduated college. congratulations for that. if it bothers you that much. just call your mom and dad, leave the rest out of your life til they can be friend with you. stop sharing your money. if they assualt you, call the police.
2007-03-20 08:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you just come from a family of hurtful / using type of people. If they are bringing you down that much then get away from them.
No one said just because they are family that we have to have them in our lives.
be cool...
2007-03-20 08:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i kinda no how u feel my dad is the same way with me like when i tell him wat i want to do when i get older he just says that is so stuipd and you will never be able to do that and he yells at me all the time and sometimes he even hits me so i no were u r coiming from totaly!
2007-03-20 08:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by drama_queen_101_2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey dont wory about it they r just jealous and if you need some one to care about you then i care about you i wish you the best in the world
2007-03-20 08:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by jumpy j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋