what would you do?

Question

I am getting married in 17 days, and all of my bridemaids dresses look different. i couldn't afford to buy everyone's dress, so i asked if they could buy them and all of them said they could, well i told everyone what dresses i wanted each of them to get and when was the latest they could order them to get them in time. NO ONE got what i wanted them to. everyone waited until the last minute and then when they couldn't get their dress they went to the mall or something to get dresses they "thought" would match. i am so stressed out right now trying to figure out how to pull this off. NONE of the pink matches they are all different colors tones, and to top it off, my MOTHER got my little sister a "wine" color dress instead of pink, telling me "oh they go together really good-don't worry about it" i am freaking!!! HELP!!!

Answer 1

At this point not alot you can do. Just decorate and make sure the flowers all match to some degree. How about just using white and different shades of pink flowers, or balloons, or ribbons? Making sure all their jewelery matches? I know weddings are stressful to begin with, then this I'm sure you are about to give up, poor thing. But I can tell you, once your day is here, you won't even notice, and besides, who cares what they wear, everyone is looking at you and your man, including the two of you. Be Happy Darlin, it will still be a happy day.

Oh, and if it bothers you that much, think about black and white for photos, they do turn out gorgeous!

Answer 2

It is good to get the dresses about 4-6 weeks in advance. I think. Maybe you should have given them a price of the dress and went with them to pick them out... that might have been less stressful on your part. If you don't like the flower girl dress and insist on having pink, IT is your wedding for christ sake, make her exchange, that is being selfish on your MOther's part. This is suppose to be a memorable and romantic, happy day for you. This is not about what everyone else wants, it is about what you want an expect. It is your wedding step up to the plate and let them all know that. They are not the ones getting married!. since your wedding is 17 days away, there isn't much you can do about the bridesmaid dresses, unless you can go to the mall like Deb's and have the girls take back the old ones they got and go from there and find dresses that will match. Good luck with your wedding, I am getting married in 7 weeks, I am having a small wedding , instead of big, one, when I started planning, I decided I didn't want the headache, so future hubby and I are having a small ceremony at a local park with parents and close friends. Then celebrating our marriage with the rest of the family and friends from out of town 3 weeks from our wedding. WE are cooking out with a band and games.

Answer 3

To clarify, you are not expected to buy your bridesmaids dresses. My bridesmaids rented their dresses. Maybe you could find a rental store that have enough matching dresses for your bridesmaids. They could then return the ones they have purchased. My girls rented their dresses from a wedding store for $45 each. They were black and white and just what I wanted them in, and they all loved it too. I did buy their jewelry for the dress.

With that being said, if it is too late to rent some dresses or you don't want to try to haggle with the time frame, then don't worry, usually different shades end up looking good together; my friend had different shades at her wedding; one dress was mint green, light pink, baby blue and yellow. When she first told me, I was like Yuck, but it was gorgeous with all the flowers and everything. And the attention will all be on the bride. I know getting married can be so stressful, but just look at it like this, the most important thing happening that day is you marrying the man you love, nothing else matters!

Answer 4

There are plenty of people who are having weddings with different shades of the same color and it looks great. Tie it all together with matching bouquets. I wish I could remember where I saw a ton of examples of wedding parties that the girls got to pick their own dresses and they were beautiful. The wine colored flower dress I would just put my foot down and say no way. Ask her to go get a dress in a pink shade, it's that time of year that pink is not hard to find. No need to freak out. After the flowergirl gets a new dress and the girls have the same bouquets it will all be fine and I'm sure gorgeous.

Answer 5

The color isn't important, neither is the fact that the styles don't match. Enjoy your day. Are the dresses really that big of a deal? Probably not. The day will be focused on you anyway! My bridesmaid dresses are not going to match at my wedding. I think that everyone has a different style dress to complement their body shape, and that's what is most important. Relax, focus on the important things, like marrying the perfect man that you can't be without.

Answer 6

With only 17 days to go, there is not much you can do about the dresses. Just make sure their bouquets all match, and maybe get them each a matching hair clip or flower to wear, and perhaps they can all style their hair the same way that day.
Don't freak out, just have fun, it's your special day, everyone will be starring at you!

Answer 7

First of all, you don't have to buy the bridesmaids dresses, that's not part of your obligation. Although you should have had them all together at one time when you picked out the dress, and had them measured and the dresses ordered right then.

I'd say your only option now, is ask them to return the dresses they have, and you all go shopping, even if it is a dept. store, and pick out one style dress for them all.

I think a wine color dress would be ok for your little sister, no need to spend a ton of money on a little girl...

Answer 8

Are the bridesmaids dresses really the most important thing?
Isn't more important that all your bridesmaids are there with you to celebrate your wedding? What should you care how they look... You are going to be the star off the day!!! Don't let something minor ruin this important day for you...
Besides, it's going to be a very amusing story to tell your children and grandchildren...
Look at it on the bright side... do a survey among your guests and ask them which two bridesmaids match the best... and crown them superbridesmaide at the end of the day... should be great fun...
Have a nice wedding and a nice life!

Answer 9

Oh man that would pi** me off to no end. You could make a huge deal out of it, sack them all and go through all that drama or you could ask yourself, in the whole scheme of things, what does it really matter. I know you are telling yourself at the moment.....IT MATTERS A LOT, but really, does it?? This is all for one day that will in no way resemble the rest of your life together. Take a chill pill (figure of speach, I do not condon drug use) and relax. This too shall pass, and just think, you have a really funny story to tell when you are old and in your rocking chairs.!!!! Good luck and have a lovely day, even if it is surrounded by mismatched pink and one red wine dress.

Answer 10

You are stressing over something that you can't do anything about. When I think about the last wedding I attended I can't even tell you what color the bridesmaids dresses were. What does that tell you? IT REALLY DOESN'T MATTER. Stop stressing and making such a big deal out of this. things will come together that day, you'll see.