I have been aquainted with someone for 3 months.
We talk on the phone, go places, and have sex.
He tells me he does not want to rush, and just to have fun.
I would like to know if I am wasting my time on this man. I know none of his family. And just becam official to his friends.
He came out of a 8 year relationship and been sinlge for 3 years. What is the problem. I am tired of hearing this (let's have fun thing) (I need to get to know you) The situation is strange.
2007-03-20 01:38:01 · 11 answers · asked by peaches7160 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he is just using you
2007-03-20 01:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mark A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i may say, i think you need to back off a bit on the "commitment" thing... if by that you mean talking about the future and what-not. The reason why he says he just want sto have fun is because he does not want to think about the future and marriage and all that stuff- he just wants to enjoy his time with you.
I myself just ended a 18month relationship with a girl. From about the 2nd week we started going out, the girl honestly never went a day without talking about marriage, kids, the future, looking up wedding dresses, etc. etc. It drives a guy insane when women want to have their entire future mapped out already and set in stone. He probobly wants to just live the moment right now with you. Dont take it the wrong way, his feelings for you and your importance in his life are still very high; just becuase he does not want to talk about future plans for your relationship doesnt mean he has none in mind.
2007-03-20 08:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Brad C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it's not too early. The problem is that you want a commitment with someone who probably doesn't. A lot of men don't want to be rushed into relationships, but there are several men who are very ready for serious commitments. You just have to do what is right for you. If you want to just have fun do that, but if you want more...keep it moving.
2007-03-20 08:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by imagine_tha_possibilities 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, 3 months is way too early for a commitment, but at the same time I don;'t think this relationship is going anywhere. Know why? Men who meet women they want to marry take them home to meet mom at the first opportunity.
2007-03-20 08:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated someone for 3 months and was married by the 4th month. It has been 5years now and i am still the happiest guy in the world. Go with your heart and dont let society tell you how long you should wait
2007-03-20 08:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i think that he's using you for just your company and sex. you might not ever get any type of commitment out of this man. so you really have to ask yourself "how long are you really willing to waste on something that will probably never happen?" Look out for yourself and stop giving it up withoput knowing someone. because then you get attached but because he never really worked for anything he won't ever take it to the next level ... he already has all of the perks he needs.
2007-03-20 08:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months time may be enough for you, but not him. Especially with him having been in a long term relationship and being single for 3 years (its hard to give up single hood, especially if it was good single hood ) Do not try to push or force him to commit if he isnt ready...if you dont want to wait for him to be ready...then you need to push on.
2007-03-20 08:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to break it to you but there is probley something wrong with this dude i am so sry but someone has to tell u he even might be gay or questioning his sexuality u never know and no 3 months is not to early at least i don't think! hang in there gurl!
:)
2007-03-20 09:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by drama_queen_101_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a time waster using you for sex. He will get as kinky as he can with you and leave mark my words
2007-03-20 08:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by nashmelb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all the commitment you'll get from him, a sex buddy
2007-03-20 08:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋