hi, the other day me and my girlfriend went out in the day for a few drinks but she said she was feeling ill so we went home, the problem was that i wanted to stay out and let her know this, cos i thought she was making it up so we had to go home, so when we got home we had an arguement about the fact. anyway this resulted in her hitting me in face. we'd had a few but neither was drunk so that is no excuse, she apologised immediatley but i don't know why she felt the need to hit me. so i guess what im looking for is answers as to what i should do next as the issue is bugging me, i do love her by the way. thanks
2007-03-20 01:15:57 · 50 answers · asked by Liam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi, regarding twatting her back, i could do that but id probably kill her as im twice the size she is. her punch didnt cause me any pain but it annoyed the hell out of me. if it happens again i would snap her in two.
thanks
2007-03-20 01:28:33 · update #1
thanks for the answers, some funny, some serious. if she slaps me again she'll be out on her ****, she does mi head in some times anyway so it'll be no skin off my nose to boot her into touch.
thanks
2007-03-20 01:59:50 · update #2
yeah i do actually really love her.
2007-03-20 03:38:40 · update #3
ok aside from "twatting her back" I think thats hilarious. he he.
seriously - if its the first time she has hit you you will probably find its built up frustration...maybe she has a few issues with you that she's trying to keep to herself and just let off steam - its not an excuse - but maybe an explanation.?
Why dont you ask her - why she felt the need to hit you?
Tell her that its the first and last time that her hitting you is going to happen and that if she hits you again to just be prepared that you might not be so restrained next time.
At least then you have spoken to her about it - explained how you feel and felt when it happened and that under no circumstances do you feel she was justified and its never going to happen again without massive repercussions.
Also - if I were you - I would keep your answer and these questions in a safe place - if she hits you again and you hit back - if the police get involved you can prove it was self defense by using this - and not just you giving her a slap.!
2007-03-20 03:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide to do, please do it sober!
As far as I see it you have two options:
1) You can talk to her and ask her what happened that night and why she felt she needed to hit you (this is what I, personally, would do), or
2) you can trust her and accept her apology as a sincere act and put it all behind you (and there is no love without trust).
The point that you two argued while drunk is more important than what happened later. For the future try to keep in mind, that you should never, ever start a discussion when you are drunk. Even, if something is bugging you very much, leave it for the morning after. You will be calmer and rational and the problem will be easier to solve.
Hope this helps!
2007-03-20 02:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by CuriousinSpring 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well you should sit down with her and let her know that you did not what so ever appreciate what she did the other night by hitting you. That's just not right and like if it was you hitting her it would another story your *** would probably be in jail because they always blame everything on the men but when a woman does it people don't look at it the same and that's not right.
Ask her why she did it and let her know the way it has made you feel. You are a real man for not hitting her back that's for sure right on.
If she does it again maybe you should take sometime apart to let her know what she has when it's gone then when you do reunite with her again she will have alot more respect for you.
Chow.
2007-03-20 01:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends. Is this the first time something like this has happened? I'd be more concerned with a pattern of abuse than a one-time incident. How does she conduct herself normally?
At the very least, I'd make it clear that this is not acceptable behavior. Inform her in no uncertain terms that you won't be treated that way.
I agree that anyone can lose their temper once. But think of what would have happened had the roles been reversed. There's no difference. If she does this again in the next year, you need to pull the plug. I'd be convinced at that point that I had an abuser on my hands.
2007-03-20 01:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by aquaman2964 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
download pictures of battered females (black eyes, especially) and leave them lying around the house. this will drive the point home of the seriousness of her actions. If she has done it ,it wasn't an accident it was her nature . dont take it lightly . a domestic assault is serious business even when the woman is the agressor. you already did her a favor by not having her arrested. if you let her skate and feel like she had done nothing wrong she will definately be back to the hitting you in the face. kudo's for not hitting her back. but this will be a psychological blow that she might realize the seriousness of her actions and make a promise that you are leaving her if it happens again. always keep your promises........
2007-03-20 01:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an abusive relationship for a very very long time and I didn't leave. It was because we loved each other and I thought that was worth holding on to.
The first time he hit me one time square in the center of my back and knocked the wind out of me. It scared me and everything but he was crying and said he was so sorry that he didn't mean to hurt me and he told me he wouldn't let it happen again.
14 years later he beat me with a 2x4 and almost killed me. I begged him to stop and that just seemed to urge him on more.
I'm not saying your girl will go to this extreme, I'm not even going to tell you to leave her you need to do what feels right inside. I just want you to know 1) your not alone 2) you don't deserve this and 3) it won't stop or get better. I really hope you get through this.
2007-03-20 01:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to her and let her know how much it has bothered you. Give her another chance, if you see her getting really wound up in the future, look for the signs and try to difuse it. If this doesn't work then she need some sort of help and you are not the one to give it.
It may just be a cross between hormones and temper and a total one off but if it happens again or something like then you shouldn't have to stand for it. Hope you manage to work things out.
2007-03-20 01:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by charl203 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is NO excuse for domestic violence whether it is a man hitting a woman or the other way around . You may want to give her the benefit this time , but if you tell her that if it happens again you will leave her you must mean it and carry it through or otherwise it will just carry on . Good luck . x
2007-03-20 01:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shoudlnt be hitting you over an argument about an outing. She shouldnt be hitting you ever, but if something that small can make her lash out what if something bigger happened? How would she be with children?
You say you love so keep loving her, but just try and be open minded that she might have a anger problem, or maybe she just tends to lash out after drinking, either way its not acceptable so she needs to address it.
2007-03-20 01:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As she said she was feeling ill then, you should try to feel her pain. Just think, if you were in her place and she had done it, then what would you had done at that time? Got it?? So go...get some flowers and chocolates for her and forgive her. I am very much sure is still loves you. But don't think of hitting her, if you do so then you will loose your dignity.
2007-03-20 01:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋