I know this is a silly question but ... ?

Question

My boyfriend hasnt seen my since Saturday night as he is busy doing coursework and thats fine with me.

The thing is we usually see each other about 4 nights a week (3 of these nights we are out in our group of friends - we hang out with the same group of people).

Is this usual? I know im probably just been silly and this is probably a normal amount of time for couples to spend together. It seems that when people get past their teens they know that a relationship isnt always about spending every minute of the day with someone.

I just need someone to put my mind at rest. We try and have an ight just us 2 at least once a week and then obviously at the weekends (Friday, Saturday and Sunday) we are out with everyone else. We usually go out on a Wednesday with our friends too.

Is all this a normal amount of time? I sometimes feel like hes not making time for me. I dont want to ruina relationship because of my silly paranoid mind! (I havent had much luck with men in the past) x

Answer 1

It sounds as though you need some time just with him. So talk to him. Plan an evening for just the two of you to go out or stay in together. Going out with friends is fine, but s couple needs some time alone too. You could even take charge and plan something for the two of you like a weekend trip or a romantic dinner. If you don't want to seem pushy about it, drop a hint like saying "How about this (night or weekend) it just be us doing something special?"

Answer 2

Why do you care what 'normal' is? It is you and he in this relationship, so how other people behave is irrelevant. The real question is - are YOU happy with the amount of time you spend together. If you are, then don't worry about it.

If you are not, then whether it's 'normal' or not, you need to address it. How do you know he doesn't feel the same way? Maybe he'd like to spend more time with you but is afraid to smother you. If you're willing to forgo your happiness over what some people think is normal, that's a shame.

Remember - you are responsible for your own happiness. No one else. If you are not happy, you have only yourself to blame for sitting back and allowing behavior you don't like.

Answer 3

wait until you are married (if you get married) there never seems to be time for seeing your spouse... i have been married 21 years and now the only time we see each other is meal time and since we joined the YMCA..we work out and swim etc etc..so what i am saying is this is as good as its going to get....it seems you are spending a lot of quality time together...but if you feel cheated then tell your B/F...but don't nag as this would be a big turn off..and put a lot of pressure on the relationship...do you want to give the impression you are needy? or give him the impression that he HAS to see you in order to keep you? well, its your call but nobody is an expert on the human relationships and your last 10 words in your question is something a lot of us out here could also say...you said it all..lol..so good luck..i hope you just have fun when you are with your b/f and not make it a mandatory time that he MUST spend with you...he should want to spend time with you without your ....well never mind...do what you think is best...Good Luck

Answer 4

Yeah that's good for couples to spend any time wit each other at that high of age cuz some just get too busy to see there gf and get into there work a lot. I think you spending a good amount off time wit ur bf

Answer 5

if u love him then u should be patient , i know that u dream to live with him forever
but put also in ur mind that he at the same time dream to be with u forever
but just think about ur life with him in the future and u will be with him more and more and u will feel boring from each other after that lolol
just be more patient and in the future everything will be okay

Answer 6

yes both of you need more time. and then you both may spend the rest of your lives together see if you can get more time