Is it love ? What is it ?
2007-03-20 00:05:14 · 18 answers · asked by Kendra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We live together so its hard to act like a comedienne a hundred percent of the time.
2007-03-20 00:09:35 · update #1
it's not love, sorry. i guess it's more selfishness.
try to talk to him and explain how you feel about it. if he loves you, he'll understand and change his behaviour. maybe he thinks you enjoy it.
2007-03-20 00:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by AnneMarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called taking you for granted, if he isn't putting the same effort into pleasing you. It's not your " job " to be there merely to please him / entertain him. Only you know if the feelings you have towards him are of love. It appears that you are feeling resentment towards him , and rightly so. As well as feeling love for your partner, you should also feel just as loved and cherished in return. It's time you sat down and talked to him about the way you are feeling before the resentment builds any further. It looks like a pattern has developed in your relationship, the longer you accept the situation the more difficult it will become to change it. It may be that he will deny that there's anything "wrong" with your relationship. If he's the one receiving all the attention, why should he. If he refuses to see your side of the story and do something about it, then it is up to you. People only treat us / affect us in a negative way if we are prepared to let them. Maybe you need to work on your own self esteem and come to realise that your own feelings / needs and desires are no less important than anyone Else's.
2007-03-20 00:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by jennybuttins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't. The more you do, the more he comes to expect it. If you can't relax, and he wanders away from when he's bored, it's worse than having an unruly dog off the leash at the park! This is something you can't possibly keep up all your life - entertaining and making life interesting for him. Talk to him about it and tell him that you have your 'boring' moments when you want to relax.
2007-03-20 00:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like it is going to be a long marraige. It doesnt sound like you are allowing yourself to be yourself. Your husband is supposed to love you for you. If "you" is not upbeat all the time or the constand comedian, try holding back a little and be more yourself. Hopefully you will be able to relax a little more and he will be accepting. If not, do you want to spend the rest of your life with this man????
2007-03-20 00:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by jms62394 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're planning to spend the rest of your life with this person. You don't plan on performing for the next 70 years, do you? Show him your regular self, and let him know that this is the person you're going to be for most of the time. He needs to be comfortable with the real you, and if he isn't, you can't spend your life acting.
2007-03-20 00:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like any guy.....
Love him as best you can but make your limit for him. Tell him that once, twice, a week or every day is allright,,,,,(this is totally up to you.) is fine, but that sex is not why he engaged to you. (is marrying you.)
Be really bold about it, some guys do that begging thing....its cute, but we still treat them like dogs.... lol. Guys like their sex, we like our intamacy,,,,,,make him compramise with you and spend time with you or do what you would like in exchange...
My husband and I have a great plan right now.....we wrestle for control....whoever wins gets control of the evening.
He is bigger and stronger than I am, but I have never lost a wrestling match against him. (I played tennis, basketball, wrestling, and softball in high school.) He has no chance, but so far after winning, he has had no complaints about rubbing my feet, or lotioning my legs, or giving me an oil massage.
Make something like that with your cutie, make a game that you can win easily, and make him follow through with it.
I hope the best for you.
2007-03-20 00:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are feeling under the weather, your fiance should realise and not put pressure on you for sex. unfortunately men are selfish and feel you are depriving them because you don't feel up to sex. they also think the world revolves around them. this is out of order, women have the right to say no.
let him be bored, or let him entertain you for a change.
2007-03-20 00:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure that it is he that feels that way and not you. Sometimes woman feel that they always have to please. Start giving him more responsibility. Ask him to plan dates, etc. (What are we going to do tonight?) Start pulling back and see what happens. If it is truly him, can you continue this through married life? If you can, no problem. If you can't, you two need to do some serious talking.
2007-03-20 00:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Ritata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about how you are feeling he should understand. You two live together and you can be like that 24/7.
Communication is great so talk to him to try and sort it out.
Good luck
2007-03-20 00:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but if you have always got to be acting, then I dont see much of a relationship? You have to be able to relax and be yourself otherwise you dont have a promising future
2007-03-20 00:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with what you guys been doing if what makes you happy do it. you both just love each other so much thats why you can do strange things thats making you feel happy.
that is how you both express your love. keep it up. spread the love.
2007-03-20 00:16:22 · answer #11 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋