We've been together since June 2006. In early December, I found out he had messed about twice with his ex-girlfriend. He didn't tell me, she emailed me! I forgave him and we decided to work past it. Now I've found out that in January, he slept with a close friend from work a few times, she even stayed over with him twice. Again he didn't tell me, I found out from her.
He said he isn't this person and doesn't know why he's doing this, he's confused and doesn't know what he wants and needs time. I've said what he's done is disrespectful and wrong and I couldn't take anymore from him. That because of his behaviour that he's given up any 'rights' to tell me he needs space/time. Either he wants to be with me and work at it or we call it a day. He said he felt cornered and that he was forced to make a decision and I said if that was the way he felt then it was time to finish things. But he's insistent he wants to work on things, he doesn't want me to leave him.
I don't know what to do
2007-03-19 23:18:37 · 22 answers · asked by imalandamcuteasabutton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you must care deeply for him or you wouldn't be asking this in the first place. But what you need to realize is that this will always be a problem. You've been together around 9 months and it's happened several times with a couple different people - these aren't good odds. I would love to say you could regain trust and not have to think about this anymore, but the reality of it is that you will probably always think about it. It hurts bad when something like this happens and that kind of pain doesn't just dissolve because he wants to "work on things". It sounds to me like he's had plenty of space and time to make his decisions and it's consistently been you getting hurt. Remember that you are better than these moments. You obviously have a lot of care and concern to offer to someone - don't let him take up any more of your time that could be spent with someone who actually values who you are. Best of luck in your decision!!
2007-03-19 23:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it tell you bout the way this guy treats people when even his "mistresses" stab him in the back? Doesn't seem like all that nice of a guy to me. I know leaving someone you love is easier said than done. You care about him and don't want to be alone so you're too willing to forgive when all he does is betray you time and time again. Breaking up w/ him is the only way he will ever respect you and take you seriously. If you're not going to leave him at least tell him he's got to get some professional help. JMHO. Good luck.
2007-03-19 23:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by GreyGHost29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. There's a great possibility that he'll cheat on you again in the future and you'll only get hurt. don't believe what he says, it only makes you look like an idiot, guys know that us girls are suckers for emo dudes. Just forget about him, let him cry his eyes out, he'll get over it. Find someone new and live a new life. Hopefully with someone who won't cheat on you.
2007-03-19 23:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by chessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated one time shame on him. He cheated two times...shame on you! He has serious issues and he is not relationship material. Of course he wants to work on things...he doesn't want to lose you...his emotional security blanket.
Most leopards never change their spots and if you were to work things out ...you have already shown him that if he cheats you will take him back. He wants his cake and eat it too and if you give him another chance all he will do is hurt you.
2007-03-19 23:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Intelfem7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he doesn't want you to leave. He wants you to stay and put up with it, so he knows that he can go out and do it again. You see by staying you are saying that you desereve this kind of man, relationship. He has problems, you deserve better. Don't you want someone to love you faithfully like you love them. If you do, toss this guy. You deserve so much better.
2007-03-19 23:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Shyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know exactly what you should do, you just don't want to do it. If a friend was in the same position as you right now, what would you tell her? Stay with him? No. Why do you deserve anything less? :)
2007-03-19 23:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even try to regain trust. You should find someone who respects you enough not to cheat on you in the first place.
2007-03-19 23:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him or keep getting cheated on. Harsh, but it's the situation you're in. Sorry. That is terrible of him.
2007-03-19 23:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not continue any relationship with this boy.In France, we say that it's preferable to travel alone than with a bad companion!
2007-03-19 23:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy for us to say let go of him. but you must also think of yourself first because not all throughout the time you are there for him continue loving him. let him realize your importance and tell him this is the time to change maybe one day you realized that you are tired of loving him.
i am sorry to say this but he is being selfish, he is only thinking for his sake.
love your self more girl than loving this person.
there are tons of guys out there who will sincerely love you!
2007-03-19 23:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋