i have a long distance gf i been working my butt off to make money to see her and get a deposit on a house she has been pushing me hard to get it and i havnt yet she been giving me deadlines and stuff but its really hard i really love her dearly, now she emailed me and said she has found some one else i am so hurt should i try to get her back i am lost without her we have been dating for like 4 yrs and i have supported her financially thru this time
2007-03-19 22:09:41 · 7 answers · asked by mikealedmonds 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she has never given me any money back should i ask for the deposit i have given her back cos i feel so used and i thought we had trust
2007-03-19 22:12:04 · update #1
i also went to see her so many times but she bnever came to see me i very upset and angry at her
2007-03-19 22:24:30 · update #2
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2007-03-19 22:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by tuff luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would ask for the deposit back and then tell her a few home truths about the way you feel she treated you. Perhaps the new man should also know about how she treated you....might make him think if not now then down the road a bit. This woman has behaved in a self centred way with no real thought to the hurt inflicted on you....as to dumping you by e mail after four years......says it all really ......she is not worth your pain...so deal with it and do it in such a way it puts closure for you......you.......not her......don't leave scope for anything to remain as an open wound in time to come........dont wish you had told her what a completebitch she is or that you should have asked for the ddeposit back.....do it now and deal with her then close the door and leave her at it to make the same mistake again....for Isomehow think she will ifso self obsessed.
2007-03-19 22:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on this girl is not worthy of you you sound like a nice bloke and this girl is an idiot it may take some time but you will get there in the end one good thing about this is you can chill for a while now that you dont have to work so hard and better that this has happened now rather than after you were wed wish you all the best for your future
you can try and ask her but honistly dont think that you have much hope to get your money she dosent sound the type of girl who would be honerable good luck honi have just read your other qs and they are all about this girl the writing has been on the wall for a long time today is the first day for the rest of your life please for your own sanity imove on join a club go jogging ring your mates for a boys night out start living again
2007-03-19 22:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you learned your lesson? dont be treated like a dick thats exactly how shes treated you make sure you get your money back, you can't be in a relationship thats all take, take, take and she never gave anything to you or made the effort to come and see you. I feel sorry for you move mate you deserve so much better and she's out there waiting ,you just haven't found her yet, this women did not care for you in the same way you cared for her and she's the losser believe me. It's really hard to find a nice person to be with.
2007-03-19 22:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by suzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that - she was obviously was just using you for financial support, the fact she never visited you and you did all the running tells you that.
Leave her to it, let the new guy be forever putting his hand in his pocket, I think she'll find it won't last long.
You could try asking for the deposit back, but I think its highly unlikely that you will see a penny of it.
Forget her and find someone decent who appreciates you.
2007-03-19 22:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww thats so mean! ask for your money back now! She wasn't the right girl for u partners r meant to be equal and pay stuff together u deserve so much better than a gold digger, on the bright side least u didnt pay for a house have kids and then she left u....some women really annoy me so selfish and heartless! make sure u get ur money bk and move on with ur life u no ur so much better off with out her!!
Good luck hunni! x
2007-03-19 22:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont get your money back she is a con and bleeding you and will continue to bleed you dry .
she does not love you nor will she marry you, never intended any of that - she just playing on your kindness. she like the free ride, and you are happy to give her the gravy train ride and she don't come across with nothing. she got u suckered.
if you get that house she'll drop you and hit the damn road, take your dumb azz to court claim common wife status and get half of or all (depending on state) of what the house sells for if a profit is made, if loosing money you have to pay, and she will also get support from you while she banging another man.
dude, swallow your pride and dump the broad, she a ho and she playin' you like a violin. dude she probably shacked up with another dude or woman getting her groove on with them and you being a nice guy, dude, you already paying her to bang other guys and gals, cut your losses and run rabbit run
2007-03-19 22:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by chazzn101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋