my sis in law(husband's younger sis). her bf always takes my 6 mons daughter away from my hand and takes her to their room out of my sight. He doesn't say hi or ask if i'm ok wit it. i haven't say anything bcus i live wit my in laws. Is it normal that i don't feel comfortable when my in laws take my baby out of my sight?
2007-03-19 22:01:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know he likes my daughter and loves to play wit her. He brings her to my sis in law room and they play wit her but it bothered me.
2007-03-19 22:13:13 · update #1
No, this is not normal!! Do not allow your child out of your sight.
2007-03-19 22:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by rustybones 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This has to be viewed in the cultural context. In India, it is very normal for a member of the larger extended family to play with a small baby of the house. So if you were living in an Indian joint family, you would not even think to ask this question.
But then in India, the boyfriend of the unmarried sis-in-law would definitely not be barging into her room so freely. He would have to sit in a more common place (that too as a friend or acquaintance of the family, I guess), where other family members may also be present or at least have easy access to.
In any case, ultimately, you must see your own comfort levels with any situation that involves your tiny baby, and act accordingly.
2007-03-20 08:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by galpal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her bf? he has no right to take her without asking , he doesn't even say hi? rude? I think you are a very kind and shy person , you don't want to make problems , and you respect others, I think you have the right to go into to their room and take YOUR child without saying any thing, if you don't like that or can't do it, next time if he comes near her, tel him , that you are sorry , its time for her to eat or nurse, sleep or what ever. if the grand parents acts like this then it's OK or even your sis in law but not her bf...is he alone with the child? or your sis in law with them , you can't trust any stranger, he is not a part of your family and you need to protect your baby...good luck.
2007-03-20 05:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by sky7th_7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't either. It's pretty creepy and abnormal that he would take your baby out of your sight. Who cares whether you live with them. Where your baby goes, you go. And if they get annoyed, you know something is definitely wrong. Stick up for yourself, and for God's sake, your child, and tell them you are pleased that they care for her so much, but until she's older, you would prefer the visit her in your presence, as in the living room or kitchen, because a baby that young needs to be near her mother. And the father of this child says what???
2007-03-20 05:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by amiaskan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur sis-in-law's bf might be taking ur baby just to impress others. tell him that u r not comfortable with it or tell this to your husband. u can let ur in-laws take your baby out of your sight if they really know to take care. yes, it's quiet normal to feel uncomforatble when somebody takes your baby. u must be proud that you are very possessive with your baby. try to engage more time with your baby. if you know that ur sis-in-law's bf is going to come in advance, u can take ur baby and lock your room and be inside for a while. or maybe u can tell that u need to feed the baby or give her a bath.
2007-03-20 06:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by curious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem with my in-laws too. Whenever we could go to visit for Christmas or something they would all walk right up to me, take my son and then take off to another room or whatever. They never asked. To me it was incredibly disrespectful and it angered me a lot. I would never do that to another mom. I finally got so fed up that I confronted them. The next time they started to take him from me without asking me I looked them straight in the eye and said "No thanks, I'm just fine holding him. Now, if you want to ASK me if you can take him I will consider it." Needless to say they all hate me now because they are all petty and disrespectful in numerous other ways. I could care less what they think of me. He's my son and I don't put up with that kind of disrespect.
2007-03-20 09:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's weird! I wouldn't like that. What is he doing with your baby? Do you ever look in to see what's going on? If he has the door shut don't let him run off with your baby. He's not a member of your family yet. How long has your sister-in-law been dating this guy? I think that's a little strange.
2007-03-20 05:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by Buffy C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is 6 months old and you are allowing her to be in a room alone with a man that is not her dad or even a member of the family? You seriously need to stop this now
2007-03-20 05:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with the situation.There is good reason to be.Who knows what goes on behind closed doors.I'm not saying there is but why take any chances of bringing on emotional scars on your baby.
2007-03-23 21:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I would let him take the baby into a bedroom by his self unless he is putting her in bed. It seems a bit strange to me. He may be touching her or not. I wouldn't let it happen if it was my child.
2007-03-20 10:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by mammagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When no-one is looking,You need to get out of that house and never return for the sake of your child,I f nothing else,call the police so they can cover your exit and dont let them know where you went.
2007-03-20 05:09:47 · answer #11 · answered by jack y 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋