is this really true or am i being a fool??

Question

We dated for 2 yrs. Things were good initially. In this period i was cheated on, lied and disrespected. He broke up and got back with me a couple of times. Finally I moved on with someone else. He convinced me to end things with the new guy in my life. I did it for him cause he was also on my mind. He is treating me exactly the way i wanted all this time and is keeping me really happy. Basically he is the opposite of what he use to be. A whole different person. Will he let me down again??? Is it just time before he reverts back to the old himself cause im available once again. Please tell me. Am i gonna end up hurting myself all over again? Is this just a dream??

Answer 1

It would be hard to say whether or not he's going to hurt you again. It's natural for you to feel wary of this situation, since he's hurt you before. People can change, and really do change sometimes. Realistically, though, you have to take a good look at past history and decide whether or not YOU feel you can trust him again. If you do decide to trust him again, you run the risk of getting hurt. Truthfully, it has been my experience that it's hard for people to really change, even if properly motivated by all the right reasons. You are right to be guarded where your heart, your emotions are concerned. Betrayed trust takes much time to heal, even if he's doing "all the right things". Listen to your gut instincts on this one, even if it's not what you want to "hear". You have an instinct to understand things on a sub-conscious level. Don't be afraid to listen to that voice. It is rarely, if ever, wrong. Be careful not to confuse this "voice" with the will of your heart. They are two different things. You may want to continue the relationship because you love him, and you feel grief or pain at the thought of the ending the relationship. But it's your instinct of self-preservation that will tell you whether that is the right path to follow, or, if you are likely to end up getting hurt again in the end. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

While it is impossible to predict the future, you can protect youself more this time by setting some ground rules, conditions for ending the relationship for good. You just have to be committed to following through. He is very lucky you are giving him another chance, just be careful and enjoy what you have now. Treat him the way you want to be treated, and expect the same from him. You must have the self-respect to not tolerate any of his previous behavior... he had had enough chances from you... no more oops, i'm sorry honney, i wont do it again, etc. I wish you luck in you new relationship.

Answer 3

Unless he had some sort of serious and I mean serious, life-changing experience, he will repeat the same horrors (if he's not already, behind your back) and yes he will hurt you again. It's like the scorpion who wanted to cross the river but couldn't swim so he asked the frog to get him across. The frog refused as he knew how much scorpions loved to use that deadly bite. The conversation went like this:
S. -"Of course not, then we'd both die since I can't swim. I'm not that crazy!
F.- "I suppose, you have a good point! Let's go."
Half way across the river the scorpion bites the frog. Knowing they are now both dying the frog asks: "What did you go and do that for? Now we're both gonna die?"
The scorpion answered: "I can't help it. It's my nature!"
Unless this unscrupulous, jealous, possessive natured guy is the one leopard that managed to change his spots, he will hurt you again. The best prediction of future behaviour is past behaviour. Take that to the bank and act accordingly.

Answer 4

Hi Heart, He has cheated on you 2 times,but if he is treating you like he should of 2 years ago maybe he has changed. I would give him a change but if things turn sour, i would kick him to the curb for good. Just enjoy things and see what happens. A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 5

A guy will do or say anything to get you back in their lives. Once they've hooked you in and made you all ga ga over them, they usually unfortunately revert back to their old habits. Some guys really do change however because they've matured or grown a brain (lol) If he keeps it up stay with him. If he shows any sign of the old behaviour, run for the hills. Hope this helps :)

Answer 6

That's a hard question to answer without knowing his side of things. But since he manipulated you to get back together, even after you were hurt many times, it may give him some leeway to cheat on you again. It's possible he'll do it. I have no idea when that would happen, but most likely he will do it again. If it does happen, please don't take him back again because he is a manipulative-type and seems to have you right where he wants you--under his thumb.

Answer 7

All you can do is trust, until he gives you a reason not to enjoy the relationship, some people can change for the better... giving him the chance to prove himself is all you can do if you still want this relationship.. good luck

Answer 8

well....I supposed there is a chance that he has changed although it is highly unlikely....I would keep my guard up and if there is even a hint of the old coming back...run for the hills and don't give him a third chance....good luck. hope it works out for you

Answer 9

you love him so much right? after what he had done you still can accept him., you are not fool being true with your feeling but please check it out either he really love you or planning up something..your know him than me, 2 yrs is not a short time.

Answer 10

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