Well i am 13 and twice now when i have been swimming with my mates a nice looking girl would come up and ask me would i like to go out with her. When ever this happens i start to stutter and mutter but i can't help it what should i do???
2007-03-19 20:48:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi! Go for it!
13 *is* old enough to have a girlfriend! As long as you're not doing anything you shouldn't be! I think it's really sweet that you want one.
It's rare for a girl to ask a guy out, especially at 13 years old. So make the most of it! As long as you like her, just say yes. Just think of her as a new friend, rather than potential girlfriend, because for all you know, you might not want her as a gf once you get to know her! If you think of her as a friend, it will help you to relax.
I get nervous around people that I like too. Mostly it's because my brain is too busy trying to think of something funny or clever to say. Best thing to do is don't bother trying to be witty - just say yes and see where it goes! It must have been REALLY scary for her to come up and ask you out, so she obviously like you! She's done something scary, so now you need to do your bit and say yes!
On your first date, if you are still stuttering, just laugh it off and say 'I'm really sorry, I get a little bit flustered around you!' If she's a nice girl, she'll find it sweet and be flattered! You'll probably feel much calmer once it's out there and you've made a joke of it. If she makes fun of you or is horrible to you about it, then move on and wait for the next one to ask you out! :-)
xx Emmie
2007-03-19 21:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax, take a breath say yes if you like the look of the girl doing the asking. Just think of it as getting to know a new mate.
And when you do go out to meet her, have a quick w@nk before you go out. This will take the edge off things, make sure your blood remains in your head and doesnt head south for the evening and it will calm your nerves.
Remember dates are supposed to be fun, not a stress. If you are relaxed and having fun, chances are she will be too. Enjoy.
2007-03-19 21:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have such a long way to go! Your only 13 years old, you shouldnt even be worrying about this stuff yet!
But, i wouldnt be much help if i didnt give you adivce so here goes.
For these girls to even come up to you is fantastic! Obviously to them you look pretty approachable. All you need to do is remember that. They picked you out in a crowd so in a way you have already won them over. Just relax when the approach you and think to yourself 'wow, how lucky am i". Girls arent big scary creatures. Good luck!
2007-03-19 20:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were probably cold. The combination of girls and the pool can be a scary ordeal. Pleasing, but scary. Dry off have a seat, and then talk to the girls. If the girls don't come to you, then you go to them. You aren't hopeless if girls are talking to you. They are putting out a sort of "half" effort. You just need to put out the other half effort to make it a complete effort by both of you guys. Good luck, but don't rush unless you want to.
2007-03-19 20:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by TheSilverBeetles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 13 for crying out loud, what's the point? your hardly going to meet the girl of your dreams that you going to eventually marry. just concentrate of school and become a intelligent being. When you reach the age of 21 then start thinking about relationships. Having girlfriends at 13 only messes up your life, confidence and your outlook on relationships for years to come.
2007-03-19 20:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stay calm and be yourself. Don't think this could be the girl. Think of it as getting to know a new Friend. That will make you a little calmer.
2007-03-19 20:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to relax take a big deep breath, and be your self, the more you worry the worse the stuttering will be. have fun and stop worrying good luck.
2007-03-19 23:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never too young to have a friend. If she or another girl that you like starts to talk to you. Take a deep breathe, and talk to her just as you would one of your other friends.
2007-03-19 20:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax!!
just be yorself she obviously likes you if you are a bit worried about things then ask one of your mates to ask her out for you or tell her you will think about it then get a mate to answer for you or you could just be brave and say YES!!
2007-03-19 21:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by DEBORAH A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy......just say a yes whenever she comes upto u. the fact that she asked u out means that u r special 4 her. think
that u hav to win over and be confident.
2007-03-19 21:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by spice* with ice** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋