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I am 43 and my husband 55,married 3 years,both never married before,and I dont want kid but he wants,what todo
I am 43 and my husband 55,married 3 years,both never married before,and I dont want kid but he wants,what todo
I am 43 and my husband 55,married 3 years,both never married before,and I dont want kid but he wants,what should I do. because he wants me to do test tube but I dont like at all,he said if not he will divorce me ,he thinks no kid is no hope no future.

2007-03-19 20:38:48 · 8 answers · asked by Carol H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting Other - Pregnancy & Parenting

8 answers

Hmm...maybe he should have shared this philosophy with you before the two of you married? It's rather unfair of him to spring this on you now. Did you discuss this prior to marriage? Well, if he is threatening you with divorce or a child... I'd call his bluff and say okay... Divorce me then. I doubt he will. And then at least he'll know how serious you are about not wanting a child. Don't just have a child together to make him happy, you'll probably end up regretting it and being resentful towards both the child and your husband.

Maybe go on Dr. Phil :)

2007-03-19 20:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is something that you two should have discussed before getting married. There may be little risk to you but because he is 55, your chances of having birth defects increase significantly.
Don't have a baby if you don't want one.

2007-03-19 21:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by santan_cat 4 · 0 0

at first, this is risky at your age for you and the infant. You willhave a miles better risk of having a infant with beginning defects bcuz of your age. additionally, examine out the fee of a "try tube" infant, no longer much less costly AND no ensures of being pregnant. in keeping with risk you are able to desire to apply a surrogate mom, she incorporates a infant this is your and your hubby's genetically, she's merely the incubator. If there are different motives you do no longer desire to have a baby, tell him those motives. If he continues to be so unreasonable factor out that he would be lengthy previous the age of traveling and having the liberty to do what older adults do while their young little ones have flown the nest. If all else fails evaluate the "D" notice and enable him discover somebody who needs a dad for her youngster which would be seventy 3 while the youngster graduates.

2016-10-19 03:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Tell your husband you are too old, and reassure him that if you have kids at this age ( no offence ) your child will be very VERY high risk for downs syndrome.

2007-03-19 20:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Christina W 4 · 1 0

if you are not comfortable with it then I'd would advice you adopt a child. Put up your best self and discuss this with him I'm sure he'll agree. Good luck!

2007-03-19 20:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lechs 1 · 1 0

Adopt a new husband

2007-03-19 20:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by kevin_4508 5 · 4 0

let him have what he wants...I ask you
why not have kids???whats wrong with having KIDS???it's GODS gift...and besides 43's not too old?its just old...you know my parents always tell me that having kids is the happiest thing that happened to them...uhhmmm...and when you a...re too old your kids are the one who will take care of you so if you won't make kids for now you'll be ending in the HOME FOR THE AGED place wich i think is very boring...right???

i go for your husband...hehehe
go grandpa!!!

2007-03-19 21:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by canton 2 · 0 2

adopt a child.

2007-03-19 20:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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