I have been with my girl for 3.5 yrs now and we just recently went to different colleges. I want to break away and expirence other girls while she has only been strengthened by the distance. I have told her on several occasions that things aren't going very well and she always promises to change to make it perfect. She will do anything to keep me and i hardly return the favor. Another problem we have is that she comes to visit me every weekend and when i ask her for a weekend alone, well lets just say she doesn't like that too much. I do love her, however i feel that i just want to get the most out of my college expirence while i am here. After all college is costing me 26,600 a year so i should enjoy it to it's fullest potential right. Please offer any response
2007-03-19 20:28:17 · 10 answers · asked by jason c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apparently, things have changed for you. You might be very fond of this girl, but it is clear that you are not in love with her. If you were, the draw to see other girls would not be there.
My advice is to do some soul searching. Make sure that you want to break things off. And, then if you still want to....be totally honest and up front with her.
Tell her that your love for her has changed. That you love her as a person...a friend.....but, not as a girlfriend any longer.
Just be sure she's worth giving up to whoop up the good times with the guys. They won't keep ya warm at night.
But, no matter what....be honest with yourself and with her.
2007-03-19 20:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont make the excuse that because of the price of your college u need to enjoy it and therefore have time away or to yourself from your girlfriend----you would need that if your college was free. we all do and it is unfortunate that your g/f dont understand this, i totally understand that we can love someone but still want time away from them and since you are young this is the best time 4 that -it is far better now then to be married and then want to do all the things you may not have done in college due to a g/f so maybe u should tell her in that way, i know she will still get upset but she does need to learn that relationships are about compromising and if she cant learn that now then it wont work eventually some where down the line anyway -good luck honesty is the best thing and at least u are being honest about ur feelings.
2007-03-20 03:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl isn't right for you. She sounds immature and clingy. She should not be promising to make it perfect, she should understand that you need to grow by yourself. You are doing her a favor by breaking up with her. Do it in person and don't look back. Tell her it's not about her, that she is fine as she is, that it's about you, and that you want to date other people. Don't give her hope that you will get back together, that's just cruel. Tell her not to wait, but to date other people. She'll get over it, I believe.
2007-03-20 03:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the classic example of inexperience and naivete' ruling decision-making capabilities. You run, she chases...and she has nothing to compare it to, so she's hanging on for dear life in hopes that you suddenly realize what a prize she is and stand still. You're right about this being a time in your life when you need to experience as much as possible; these years are going to stay with you for the rest of your life and they should be happy as well as memorable. Tell her you enjoy her company and you'd love to see her when you're at home, but the relationship can't continue as it is especially if she's putting unrealistic demands on your time while you're away. tell her what you told us and let her deal with her own emotions...you don't want to hurt her feelings, but you don't want to hurt yours even less!!
2007-03-20 03:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, go to school, concentrate on the education, then the social end of it--meet new people, join new groups--get away from this girl who is wasting your time.
2007-03-20 03:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but i want to tell you what i feel in your question, you dont love her as what you've said you do love her.Better to tell her what you want and i know it really hurts her but she deserve to know the reason that you want to date with other girls than to know it later on coz it doubles the hurts she may feel if you tell her at this time that nothing happened yet..
Gudluck to your journey.....
2007-03-20 03:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by cheezzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more firm about it. Tell her exactly what you just posted here--you want to date other girls for a while and that she should date other guys at her school.
2007-03-20 03:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by No joke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just consider this question..
do you still want to keep her in your life?
if you say yes, then don't fool around . you could be true to her at the same time have fun.
if you fool around you are going to lose her
2007-03-20 03:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by zara19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a Jerk!!! And she deserves better!
2007-03-20 03:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break-up is the solution.
2007-03-20 03:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by roy_marzoed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋