Okay so, I have been in a relationship with this guy who has a daughter. He doesn't have his daughter. The mom of the child has his daughter. He wants his daughter in his life. He lives with roomates who party. He wants to move out away from the roomates so that his daughter can be with him. He is working full time and going to school full time as well. He said that he is in love with me. I'm not to sure about what any of this has to do with me. We also have been having unprotected sex. I guess I just don't know what he is planning......Please help..
2007-03-19 19:53:28 · 12 answers · asked by amandamc32183 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop having unprotected sex. This guy already has one kid. You don't want to put yourself in a situation with a guy that is too young to care for two kids.
Maybe he loves you however, right now he needs time to focus on his daughter.
2007-03-19 19:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Inez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing im hearing solid in what you have said about you and this man in this relation ship, is that your having unprotected sex, and that your unsure of his motives. Unprotected sex, out side of a stable, long term, monogamous relationship, is not just reckless, but dangerous. Not only to both your healths, but to any children you may want in the future. It is not just his responsibility and planning that needs to go into using protection, its both of yours. Disease now days can kill you, or leave you steril, and much much more. His plans on getting stable so he can be with his daughter sound great, but saying your going to do something great and doing it may be two different things. Use caution, and your head as well as your heart. It is important in every relationship to communicate freely with each other, to respect, one annother, and to be lovingly, but completely honest. Ask your self why your not able to ask him these questions. Respect your self. It sounds like he has a lot on his plate, school, work, kids, exwife, you, room mate (problems with room mate or is he partying with him?), If you want to know where you stand with him, ask him in a relaxed nonpressured way.
2007-03-20 03:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...hmmm i think to start you are confused and really need to start using protection before you make the biggest mistake in your life and have a child with someone that you are unsure knows what he is planning.
Find out, its as simple as asking him wether he truly loves you and just cos he says he loves you it doesnt mean he does. Actions speak for themselves.
And he should be alot wiser making sure he uses protection before jumping into bed with you. He hasnt learnt and you are letting him!
You should really reconsider you values and what you want. Do you really want a baby in your life with someone your not married to? or even know what his intentions are?
I wish you good luck but think about it
2007-03-20 03:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont rush!
Slow down a little bit. May be he needs some time and most important thing is what you want. I am sure you wont get married to him and you dont sound deeply in love with him. Give him some space and let him make his decisions. Dont get too involved but keep asking him what he is upto. He does sound kind of confused and you need to talk with him.
Good luck!
2007-03-20 02:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by miss_magic047 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wanting to be with his daughter is a bit impressive for a guy. anting to move out to accomodate his daughter is also pretty impressive. but not unless he actually do these things, try not to let your guard down.
and you're having unprotected sex? this is a point against the guy. you might also try helping him on this. never have unprotected sex to prevent unwanted consequences later on/
2007-03-20 02:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you get involved with his daughter make sure you will be getting involved with him. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? And about unprotected sex..........well that's a no no unless you really do want to spend the rest of your life with him real soon..
2007-03-20 02:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop the unprotected sex.
Chances are the relationship will go nowhere.
2007-03-20 02:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, get some condoms and keep your mind. Very heavy situation to get into. Be strong and stay or calm down and leave slowly. Don't get your head messed up.
2007-03-20 02:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by thecharleslloyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's trying, but protect yourself and use condoms.
and if you can find someone else, do it! There's just too much drama in his life, you don't need to be caught up in it.
2007-03-20 02:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by book 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stupid you and your stupid way of living ....... for God sake leave some difference b/w animals and humans.... marry someone and then have sex with him......
2007-03-20 02:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by AM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋