For those who know about adoption and fostering.?

Question

My husband and I are considering adopting a child. But there is always the chance that I may become pregnant. We want to adopt a child because we want to help people, especially children, and oops I accidently get pregnant 2 months after adopting a child, is there anything wrong with that? What are the guidlines to having a child of your own and adopting? What should I do? I mean, conceiving a child is rather difficult, but the possibility is always there. I want to adopt, and i would also love to have one of my own. Any tips??

Answer 1

Go ahead and begin the process. Don't put your life on hold "in case" you get pregnant.

If you begin the adoption process and get pregnant before the adoption takes place, then the adoption process is put on hold - for around a year depending on the adoption agency.

If you adopt and then become pregnant, it's no big deal. You'll have 2 children then.

There's no guidelines of having children of your own and adopting except that after a newborn arrives, the agencies want you to wait a while before getting another newborn.

Answer 2

You can adopt and still have your own child. I know a woman who was halfway through an adoption and found out she was pregnant. They were going to continue the adoption, but the birth mother changed her mind before the adoption was finalized. Child Welfare agencies don't care if you can have kids or not, they just want you to be committed to the adoption, even if you do get pregnant, and to treat birth children and adopted children the same. However, in the case of international adoptions, they ask that you not try to get pregnant until the adoption is finalized because of the necessity of traveling to a foreign country.

Answer 3

Well I live in Ireland and I know that here it would be impossible for you to adopt because you are capable of having your own children. Infertile couples get preference here and they won't even place you on the list unless it's 100% positive that you are unable to have your own children. This obviously doesn't apply to adopting outside of this country. Fostering is a different story as there are not many families willing to do it. I know people who have their own children but still foster kids waiting to be adopted. Good luck with everything, I hope it works out for you.

Answer 4

i strongly believe that we have enough love for our own children and ones who are adopted.i have children three boys who are all mine not adopted but my sister in law adopted a baby when she was 1 week old.there is no difference in how i love my boys or how she loves her little girl.my cousin has two children of her own and has adopted three 2 girls and 1 boy which makes 5 and she loves and treats them all the same.Is the love different i dont see it does she feel it maybe but love is unconditional.i think its a wonderful idea that u want to adopt and if you have your own baby well good for you and your family.i say do it life is full of mystery and you really wont know until it happens i can give you advice and tell u what i know but anyone who wants to adopt those lil ones who dont have families more power to them and thank god for people like you

Answer 5

if u have adopted the child from orphanage pl continue both with adopted child as well as ur pregnancy as it would fulfill all ur desires for both child and that too a biological child as we have also gone through the same process.

Answer 6

personally, I wouldn't do both. I think I am a generally good person, but i feel like i would always compare my own and the adopted one... especially if they end up being close in age and you wouldn't want one of them to feel superior or inferior to the other. That is my opinion.