my sister have been sharing me her problem but i havent answer her, well, i hope you guys can share your opinion on this situation. she have a very long term relationship with her boyfriend (almost 10 yrs ) .This couple have a strong chemistry and planning to get marry this year. Lately, she contacted with this nice guy and found that it is a very interesting to know a new person-what he likes, and he doesnt, kinda new things everyday, well its a very nice feeling. my sister claim that theres almost no spark in her relationship with her beau, maybe becaouse of the so long term relationship. But her boyfriend have show her loyalty and trustworthiness during this relationship. my question, should she have a second thought on this? because to start a new relationship is about taking risk and we might not know what will happen.I hope the Cupid's arrow will take the right place.
2007-03-19 19:19:55 · 4 answers · asked by ctkm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone gets the "The grass is always greener on the other side." syndrome.
She is going to lose her boyfriend as soon as he finds out. As you said, he has been devoted to her for ten years, and suddenly she says, "I'm bored of you. I want a new lover." He is NEVER going to take her back. He has just wasted ten years on a woman who will dump him at the first sight of another guy.
I know that you're going to say it's innocent, or maybe even that they're just friends. However, her boyfriend is never going to listen to that. He is going to leave.
What she needs to do is sit down and seriously consider what is going to happen. Does she want to lose ten years so that she can have the initial thrill of a new relationship? If the answer is yes, then she doesn't deserve ten years of devotion from her boyfriend. I only feel sorry that this man has wasted so much of his life on a selfish woman who only cares about thrills and the love that she is throwing away.
2007-03-19 20:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just curious about what else is out there and think the grass is always greener on the other side. She should be so lucky that her boyfriend is loyal and trustworthy. Not many people are like that, she has something very special and should give it a chance to re spark their relationship. It's something a lot of people go through.
2007-03-19 19:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by Zombie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have second thoughts, then your relationship is not strong and steady. In that case, you must start having second thoughts about your feeling because you have that thought.
Until and unless, you stop having such thoughts, your relationship is in jeopardy.
Good Luck
2007-03-19 19:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should see who she likes best cos she cant cheat on either 1 of them
2007-03-19 19:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋