I want to propose to her?

Question

We've been dating for 7 months and love each other to death and have even talked about it...we both know that we wouldnt be able to get married right away because of where we are in our lives with school and work...but it just seems like being engaged is the way to take our relationship to the next level. What should I do?

We've been dating for 7 months and love each other to death and have even talked about it...we both know that we wouldnt be able to get married right away because of where we are in our lives with school and work...but it just seems like being engaged is the way to take our relationship to the next level. What should I do? oh btw im a junior in college and shes a sophmore to kinda let you know how old we are

Answer 1

My husband and I started dating our Freshman year of college, we pretty much talked about marriage from the beginning. I have to disagree with people that say 7 months is not long enough to know you want to marry someone. We know, though we didnt get engaged until our Junior year of college (2 yr, 3 months of dating), but had a long engagement (3.5 years). Like you we wanted to take our relationship to the next level, but knew that we should wait until we were out of school, in good jobs, and financially stable before we got married. I see nothing wrong with getting engaged now and holding off on the wedding plans until you are both out of school.

Answer 2

Go through pre-marital counseling first before you get married and wait you always have time until after you both get out of school, but marriage is like forming a company. You have to both be willing to budget your time and money. Most fights are started because of money and the lack of. For richer hopefully and for Poorer more often than not. Learn eachother's odd annoying habits not before you take that next step. Because divorce you may think is easy, but it's not and it's ugly. Be prepared to think could I still say I Love you with a baby screaming the phone going off and the house a complete wreck. Well hope you can commitment is a good thing if it is the right thing for both of you just make sure that it is.

Answer 3

I'm not sure how old you are...but 7 months is really not a very long time but if you are certain that you want to be together then i spose you could propose. I know you can also get committment rings. Maybe that might be a nice in between step for you until you get out of the honeymoon period of dating...because if it's only been 7 months i guarantee you are still honeymooning. A committment ring still gives you the next level up but without the title which might put a bit of pressure on the relationship.

Answer 4

If you are going to spend the rest of your lives together what's the rush? She will always be there right? Why not wait until you finish school, then you will have more time to enjoy each other and your engagement. Not to mention people will tend to take you more seriously if you wait a little longer. Then you don't have to hear the "I think you're too young....inexperianced.....your not gonna make it.....are you sure your doing the right thing" speeches from everyone. Enjoy the dating. After all you can't go back to dating. Plus they are some of the most fun times in a relationship. You don't want to cut it short. If it's meant to be it's meant to be.

Answer 5

If you want to get engaged, I am sure that would be a wonderful surprise for her. Go and purchase her a ring and then come up with a really fun way to give it to her. That will be a memory that you will have for years. My brother hung his girlfriends engagement ring on the Christmas tree and it was Christmas day before she found it. He had to tell her that there was something for her on the tree. You could get her a glass of champane, with a clear glass and drop it in the bottom of the glass, make sure she notices before she drinks if she does not notice it right away. You coud buy her some flowers and tie the ring on the bouquet, or buy her balloons and tie the ring on the balloons. Make sure they have a weight on them. You could slip the box in her purse, with a love letter,and the list is endless, have the question written across the score board at a game stating " ****** will you marry me? I love you! Signed ******

Answer 6

Well, it sound like you are pretty young for marriage. The percentage of married couples that get divorced is way too high. You might want to think about talking about marriage and just set the set till you finish school and get a job. I would suggest not purposing, unless you can afford the engagement ring of her dreams and can wait till you are done with school. If you can not afford a ring, then don't. Just imagine if you buy a ring now and get a mediocre ring, she will have to wear it forever.

Answer 7

I dated my wife for 2 years ( 1st 2 years of college ), then was engaged for 2 years and was married for 9 years. Have been divorced for 3 weeks after a one year separation - why am I telling you this??? The length of time doesn't matter - just choose wisely my son! My Grandparents dated for one year, were never engaged and got married in 1940. 67 years later they're still together and in love. Follow your heart - not the wisdom (or lack thereof) of a Yahoo board. :)

Answer 8

If you feel the same way about each other then you should propose or at least wear "promise rings" to promise to always be faithful and loyal to each other. I think at the stage in your lives a promise ring is the kinda commitment you need so that when your lives are ready for an engagement then its more special. Its good to see that you believe in eacho others love.

Answer 9

If your heart says it's right, go for it! You don't have to get married right away. I've known people who were engaged for years before they made any wedding plans. Engagement is a nice way to show each other and the world that you are committed. Congrats

Answer 10

Wait until you are both done your post-secondary education, and have both begun your careers - out in the world living independently. Things really change in your 20s as you are out exploring the world. Don't get engaged til you are dating at least 18 mos, then at least wait a year. No reason to rush if it's right.