2007-03-19 19:06:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'd probably talk to my boyfriend about it and ask him my concerns. it might pay if you share your feelings to your boyfriend.
but think of it this way: your boyfriend chose YOU personally. his sister was given to him without him doing any choosing! so who do you think he'll listen to? maybe she's just jealous of the attention your boyfriend is giving you.
with this in mind, though, make sure that you're not doing things that may be offending your boyfriend's sister. if you aren't, she's the one who's wrong. if you are, try to see things from her perspective!
goodluck!
2007-03-19 19:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem in the past.
My girlfriend's brother did not like me. So, I pulled him aside one day and spoke to him about it, and it turned out that it wasn't anything personal actually, he had seen other lads hurt his sister over the years and was worried that I would do the same.
We spoke, and I said look basically, I like your sister a lot, and dont plan on hurting ayone, and I just let things take their natural course.
He wanted me declare undying love, which I said NO to, well at this point we had only been going out a while, and so I said I cant say that, because it may be a lie, but I like her a lot and want to see what happens between us.
Basically, just do right by your boyfriend and if his sister still doesnt come round, well your not dating her!! So let her get on with it!!!!!
2007-03-19 19:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know that sisters matter in a relationship with your boyfriend.
2007-03-19 19:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay as far away from her as you can. Sisters and Brothers of the person you are dating can be a real pain in the a** . She will get to know you over time and it will give her a chance to grow up. I have found that when someone does not like you or you don't like someone else, the best thing to do is stay away from each other.
2007-03-19 19:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My fiance's younger sister hates me. Here's what I do.
I try my hardest to be nice to her. I call her on her birthday to tell her happy birthday. I suggest double dates with me and my fiance and her and her boyfriend. I take her to the mall, I take her out to dinner, and I just try really, really hard to be nice to her (she doesn't make it easy).
I talk to my fiance about it. I tell him how I'm feeling. This way, we work as a team together. Despite my nicities, she still hates me, and she hates me openly in addition. When my fiance and I talk, we discuss how I feel, how he feels, and what we should do. This way we work as partners, and when she does something outrageous (like calling me a ***** in front of my grandfather at my engagement party), we already have a plan of how to react.
I let my fiance handle the situation. As much as you'd love to swoop in and discuss the situation with his sister, you can't. It's his job, and it's probably some deep-rooted issue between him and his sister. At least that's what it is in my case, anyway. If you attempt to patch things up with her, she'll probably be unreceptive. And if you approach her, it could make things drastically worse. Try to get your man in your corner, so he can talk this out with his sister. She's his sibling, not yours.
Overall, keep a smile on your face. Remember to be nice, but, still, keep in mind, that your man may be stuck with a sister who doesn't like you, but he chooses to be with you. Good luck!
2007-03-19 23:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by lilmissmiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her.
As long as your boyfriend doesn't let it bother him you've got nothin to worry about.
2007-03-20 17:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by shogun_316 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask her why. Then I would try to work on a way to get along.
2007-03-19 19:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not female, but i'll give an answer. don't worry about it. impress your boyfriend, not his sister.
2007-03-19 19:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by tom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave her alone, &try not to end up in situation whereby we in the same company.
If we are, I'd try &tolorate her dislike &maybe try &win her over with the person i am.
but she can forget me ever kissing her butt to get her approvel.
2007-03-19 19:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in this same situation, but me and my bf are currently not together and working things out. His sister doesnt like me becoz she has the type of personality where she thinks she can overun everyone and anything and i am not worthy to date her brother.
and she also probly doesnt like u becoz u are taking her brother away from her so the relationship that he had with her is somewhat taken over by u and shes jealouse
2007-03-19 19:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by bella g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋