well i know how i want my wedding nothing to big but some what elagent. the only problem is that i have 7 different sponsers and every time i ask them what they are going to help with they never give me an answer or they say that its to expensive, that i could use the money on something better like grocery's, dose anyone have a clue on what i should do?
2007-03-19 19:02:22 · 7 answers · asked by cindy c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its not that i cant pay for the stuff, i told them that i would be happy to pay for it my self but they keep insisting to help and i dont want to hurt their feeling after all they are my aunts, uncle and dad.
2007-03-19 19:18:24 · update #1
They're offering to help, but every time you ask they're fobbing you off and you're getting nowhere! Start saving as much as you can whenever you can and just do it yourselves. You can still have a nice elegant wedding without it costing the earth - you just have to be a bit creative. You could ask one of your sponsors if they could make a nice cake for you, or you could ask if one of them would film it for you or take pictures for you? Good luck! I hope you get what you want!
2007-03-19 21:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is your wedding day, why let some one else tell you if it is too expensive. Wouldn't you rather have a little more expensive wedding to one you will be happy with and remember, or a not so expensive wedding and live on knowing that there were many things you would have changed, but let some one else tell you how to run your wedding. Your sponsers are not the ones getting married, follow your heart, and make sure it is the best damn day of your life, and don't listen to what others have to say, because they are prolly jelous that you may have a beter wedding then them.
2007-03-20 02:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's perspective, and my wife's...after we did all the planning, the cake, the hall, the church, the invite list, the transportation, the photographer, and all the money and all the stress about the whole wedding day, the day after we both said "Wow, all that for one night?" I know some people are more "romantic" than others, but the bottom line is that after this one day, you are on your own, and you are off to the honeymoon, which in itself can be stressful from a planning perspective. You will have one day, that's it. After that, everything is up to the two of you. So when your sponsors are telling you that you might be better off spending money on other things, they might be right in a lot of ways. The wedding day really isn't the big thing, although commercially you are led to believe it is extremely important. The important thing is what happens after the wedding day. Really...honestly...it's the truth.
2007-03-20 02:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Justaguess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop the sponsors, and pay for your own wedding yourself. Get a second job if you have to, that's what my brother and his wife did to help pay for their wedding. She worked full time during the day, and waited tables at night, my brother worked full time during the day (construction, no less) and then bartended at night. They took the money from their 2nd jobs (the night jobs) and put that towards the wedding. They had a lovely ceremony, probably around 150 people, they served heavy hor'duerves, had dancing, but NO alcohol. The alcohol was too expensive at the reception, so they had the wedding at 5, reception started at 6:30, it was "officially" over at 9, but that's when they all moved to a local bar (the one the bride and groom had worked at). The party continued there until the wee hours (I left around 11, since I had an early morning flight to get home). In short, you can do anything if you want to work hard enough for it, but no one's going to give you a wedding for free.
2007-03-20 02:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they will only pay for something they approve of. In other words, you are on your own for paying for your wedding. You can have a small elegant wedding in your back yard or in your house, a park, or anywhere. It doesn't need to be expensive. Since they are being that way, I would assume that they won't pay for anything. Maybe you'll get lucky and they'll pay for something at least.
2007-03-20 02:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sly Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can barely afford your groceries, I suggest hot dogs in the park unless the finance can afford better. You can try taking out a loan or credit card. I know a lot of people who get a credit card with flyer miles or bonus points to pay for the honeymoon.
2007-03-20 02:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by diva_m3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they mean good, maybe just can't follow thru. You need to go ahead and have your wedding like you want it. Even if they are "helping" its your day.
2007-03-20 04:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by mundo808 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋