I don't want to bias any mutual friends and would like to move on from the situation, but questions are bound to pop up. Any ideas?
2007-03-19 19:01:53 · 6 answers · asked by Confused College Student 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
absolutely. First step, think about a one sentence summary about what went wrong eg, she/he was dirty, inconsiderate, disrespectful etc. Now assume that she/he is a good person and had no bad intention, then modify your one sentence summary with a politically correct non accusatory one like "it was time to move on, we wanted different things, our lifestyles did not compliment each other etc. You do want to say something diplomatic and non accusatory not only to save his/her reputation with mutual friends but also to save yours. Whenever a relationship fails, both people in it had something to do with the failure so blaming it on him/her just makes you look immature plus your friends will actually not trust you because they would be wondering what accusatory things you are saying behind their backs..
You guys lived together, learned something from the experience and then decided it did not work out. Finish! you move on. Good luck
2007-03-19 19:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by uz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You will be glad if you take the high road on this. You will need to be a politician at your best. Keep it kind, vague, leave out any inference of the negative, and change the subject. Remember everybody likes to talk about themselves, so ask a question after you are asked a question. You might say that the other person wanted to make other plans, or that you wanted to make other plans, or that it was a friendly decision on both parts, and just move on from the subject. People fill in the details on their own anyway, the less said is always the best rule. All they can do is guess. If pressed, just diligently work on changing the subject without being overly obvious that you're doing so. Good luck. Karma, karma, karma!
2007-03-19 19:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by Inquisitive 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this works like a charm everytime!!
say someone asks you about something uncomfortable . . very much like what you have described here ..
just chuckle . . take the person aside and say, "Its something we're working on. Its a plan . . hehehehe. Will give you all the details later."
Now the next time another person askd you the same thing, and the first guy is around, share a knowing wink . . . .repeat as often as necessary . .
hehehehe
rest assured . . human nature will give them something better to speak off a few days later . .
2007-03-19 22:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by blogman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I was going to answer this, but Uzo totally took the words out of my mouth and rocked the answer.
Give him the 10 pts.
2007-03-20 04:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be simple. Say they moved out and it's just something I'd like to keep to myself. It's not necessary to say anything else and if they push they are inconsiderate.
2007-03-19 20:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by redboomkat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He/she just found something that worked better for him/her and was closer to school/work.
Or you could just be honest and say, "I don't really want to get into the details but it's better for both of us this way. "
2007-03-20 02:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋