ok heres the deal, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years we are very much in love and happy, he wants to marry me and has given me a promise ring...I've got a high sex drive and so does he but there are times when i try to start it and he turns me down saying he "doesn't want the relationship to be based on sex" or "I just want to hold you close tonight"...sometimes i find it weird i guess it's cause i am used to guys being all over me, i know he isn't cheating cause he is always with me...no time or room to cheat. so why does he turn me away?...I know i'm good cause there are more times when he wants it , then there are the times where he "just wants to hold" me. HELP!!!!
2007-03-19 18:28:00 · 11 answers · asked by TPete 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um i'm 20...he's 19. and there are times when he wants it and I don't also fyi
2007-03-19 18:29:45 · update #1
wow you are blessed you should not ask this here. (this is for people who need help) you are lucky you have a man who likes you that way and most of all he does not like you for that only. he likes you for YOU, which is great. you could talk to him and tell him thats your way of being closer to him and see if he understands, but trust me you got a great guy. hold on to him, he is a keeper little lady.
2007-03-27 12:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tony M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's that old saying, "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus." Try teasing him a little bit with different lighting and silky undies! Stuff like that. If that don't work, then step it up with maybe some close masturbation for him to view! Play it up!
2007-03-20 01:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Craig Y 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my advice:
ok, the marriage thing: NO! not now, you will regret it later.
the weirdo boyfriend thing: very simple.
i call it, plan re-manilizing
1. get him over at your house/dinner etc.. one night. wear clothes that "show".
2.when both u get home, set the mood. make him hot.
3.u could figure out the rest
* on the night u do this and try to bring out this guys inner sex drive, make sure you do not cross the line going from "sexy" to s|ut
2007-03-20 01:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by -LaZy-DaWg- 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he JUST doesn't feel like it. Sex could be a lot of work for him, if you don't help out enough. Sometimes you're just not in the mood and could rather cuddle.
2007-03-20 01:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have gotten yourself a good guy that doesn't need the sex all of the time. There is nothing wrong with him...Just be happy with him like he is.
2007-03-20 01:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U should be happy..its not common to find a man like that...Lucky u.
2007-03-27 06:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont push it he seem like a cool person
2007-03-27 23:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to be nice with you ... some guys are so brainwashed with this 'be nice with girls' thing that they turn to complete wussies. good luck you have one of them ;)
2007-03-20 01:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Di Snow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he has something in past tramatic...or he is a little religious
2007-03-27 21:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by D.E.O.N. Sphinxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some damn toys you nympho
2007-03-27 12:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by green_slothsex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋