Is timing really that important to guys?

Question

So my best friend has liked me ever since we've met. (we've known each other for about 3 yrs) I'm the first girl who's ever felt the same about him. He's the "shy boy" type so he values things more than the average guy. We're both mutual in the sense that we do want a relationship, we care and love each other but believe life is just too stressful right now. He doesn't wanna risk our friendship/relationship (in general) because of our history. He told me that he does want to be with me but it would be at a right time because he doesn't wanna screw it up - he wants it to be "long lasting", "real", and "serious"....

Even though we're not together now, does he really love and care for me? IS TIMING REALLY EVERYTHING? (especially when it comes to your best friend?)

also, i think he was also intimidated while we were "hooking up" - he's happy we're best friends again and said that before when we were hooking up he didn't know what to do, say and was just plain nervous...

Answer 1

Firstly, let me categorize people, so that you dont generalize "Guys" as one entity, as no guy is same, nor is any gal the same, everyone is unique and no generalization can be made on genders in this world of today.

CLASSIFICATION 1: ABOUT LOVE

A) Guy who dont believe in anything called Love, all they know is that male and female have sex, there is nothing Love they feel.

B) Guys who take Love as 'casual' thing, run around, date , enjoy, maybe even get physical, and then say goodbye and hop on to another gal, these are just unreliable and although they talk about love, they actually mean "lust". They even fool gals that they love them, they talk sweet, care, give gifts, and all, but one day, betray all trust, and do it all again with another gal.

C) Guys who cherish true love, they know the meaning of Love, they also think about both sides of Love, about the practical side, they want to keep their LOVE happy and live a good life. They want to give their loved ones a nice time in this world sincerely. They love to be physical too, but after commitment and in a purer sense, not for the sake of lust but in real love and bond of marriage\serious relationship.

CLASSIFICATION 2: ABOUT PRACTICAL SIDE

A) Guys born with a silver spoon in their hands ! Born in rich and established homes, with lots of support and live a settled life since born with no worries of college fees or a job.

B) Guys, born in middle way, they have to build their own world, work hard, save money and then dream of a home and all the things of the material world

C) guys born in hopelessly poor families, get no education, get to go nowhere unless they become gangsters\politicians\music\entertainment artists\ cool businessmen. They dont get a good job, and most of them, live and die as poor, but some of them can cross to the other extreme side, but not most.

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From the little description you have given to me, although I cant judge your guy so easily, I would put him in the Section C of classification 1 and section B of classification 2 :)

For a guy who really cherishes true love, cares for the loved one and thinks about the practical side and at the same time, has to build his career\home with hardwork and this needs time. He perfectly knows, he is living in a real world and its not hollywood for things to happen out of the blue. He knows his responsibilities and desires to be able to give his Love ad good life, and Who can DENY ? this guy needs time. He is not day dreaming that Love is enough (most of the gals do this before commitment and later regret when they face real life) this guy is not letting the reality escape his mind, and this is good.

If he did not care for you, or love you, he would behave like any other guy, enjoy ur company, please himself with you, hang on with you till he could and when he cant, just say GOODBYE, but he is serious, he wants to love you truly and eternally. His love is for your life and personality, not for your physical body alone or till your young and charming, he will love even when ur old and wrinkled.

He needs time, cos he wanna build a home, a base, to keep you warm and cosy, for everlasting love. Stay by him, encourage him , and help him help himself, and your future home will be full of love.

PS: these kinda guys r like pearls, they are one in a million. If he cannot build a home, he wont want to complicate your life although he loves you, that is true love, and your blessed to have him.

I hope my evaluation of him was true, I am sure, such little information about him, would not suffice to judge a person, but I wrote from a general perspective, your a better judge, Good Luck :)

Answer 2

Well at the beginning I thought "OK this guy must be a loser, a player or gay". But since he says that he believes "life is just too stressful right now", maybe he is just being mature. I admit that at some moments when I was younger I would have been a very bad boyfriend since there was too much going on and I had no job or college degree; now things are cool, I have my degree, a god job, no as much stress as before and I can be a very good company for my girl.

Just make sure he doesn't go over the top with the "let's wait and let's be friend" stuff. If you thinks it's too much wait, tell him so, because he is shy and sometimes the girl have to make the first move to save the day.

Answer 3

To be honest, it sounds like he may see you as 'the one' but still wants to play a bit....let him get it out of his system and you should too. When he is ready to get with you, if you are single at that time and are still wanting him, it could be really good. You don't want to push for a relationship now and then have him cheat or regret it down the road.

For some reason, I think that if he just wasn't into you, he would make excuses not promises of a future together. My advice is be patient and give him the space....it will pay off in the long run. HOWEVER, do NOT just sit on your **** waiting for him to call or come around. Go out and live your life....date, etc... Do not stop your life and wait for him or you will risk that when he does come back, you won't be ready for him...or you may have started to resent him, which will further damage any relationship you two might have.

Answer 4

Time is fundamental in view that as I'm definite you already know time equals cash, and cash is the reply to 9 out of ten questions. The average age is only a wise attention. In your twenties it's not going you are going to be competent to financially help a loved ones, wherein as though you are to your forties the menopause is up the creek. As for autos, all guys are obsessed and wish to gain knowledge of to force as quickly as it's authorized. i.e. sixteen Not being the correct time for romance is only a well excuse for dumping a woman. It does not honestly ponder time whatever. And final however no longer least, a condominium depends upon the supply of price range, which most of the time does not arise till a man or woman's thirties. Women do not recognize this, in view that they don't embody good judgment (and feature smaller brains than guys).

Answer 5

Sounds like a bright guy. He knows the situation in life right now will create some immediate adversity in your relationship. Timing is important in the idea that you have some time to be intimate together without any outside influences directing you at any obtuse, or irradiate intervals. To be best friends and lovers, there is no greater thing. Good luck!

signed creepy guy:

Answer 6

Time waits for no one. He is so fearful of messing up your relationship by taking it to another level. If you don't want a relationship, then I suggest that you stop loving each other. Right now for him timing is first and foremost. You are secondary. Timing is everything to him. You are not.

He is still very shy, but of life. Love can be soothing in a life of stress. I see him as heating up a dutch oven full of water on a low light and watching to see when it starts to boil. Not in his lifetime.

Answer 7

hi FRIEND if he loves no matter problems in life thAt are normaal in life so be strong and ask him for correct answer u may be loving him what know he just wana be u r freind nothing then tht so be sure what ever u do coz love is not a simple it may change u r life in problem s and it may make ever happy in life this my experience of love ask afce whether he wana do or not HI FREIND MAIL IF HE IS SAYS YES I WIL BE THE HAPPY ON U IF U HIS ANSWER IS YES

Answer 8

I think that's awesome. This guy totally respects you and values you. Just play it by ear...stand by him...continue to hang out and be "friends". Eventually this will all work out and one day it will fall into place. Good luck! :)

Answer 9

this guy is either a player and knows exactly what you want to hear to want him more, or he is just shy. There is no such thing as timing, if he wants you, he wants you, because for guys, he would want you everyday (or should i say night).

Answer 10

many times when guys say lines like this it's a all B.S., if he wants to be with you, he will be with you NOW.