If you are divorced and really not dating anyone, How do you resist the urge to have sex? Since this is something that your body will crave to the fullest.Do you or can you buy toys? satisfy yourself? and what do you do when those things become boring and unsatisfying? Get married only for sex? I really need a biblical answer to this or just some advice?
2007-03-19 18:14:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am married, but we are seperated. I do not want to be with him any more. he keeps approaching me with sexual offers and i decline. I then get accused of sleeping with the whole iraqi troops. We are getting a divorce, but I know my sex drive. I don't want to set myself up for something, I don't think I can handle. My soon to be ex couldn't handle me either in that area, so I felt like most men do, only I'm female. I just wanted to know what my options were. Men come up to me all the time, I just don't want to "open" myself up that way.
2007-03-19 19:34:46 · update #1
It's not wrong to use toys or your hands to help release the sexual pressure that builds up inside us. There is nothing in the bible about pleasuring yourself being a sin..the only thing it says in the bible is to respect your body ..and i'm pretty sure that means ..not giving it to any man or woman just for sake of having sex..also getting tatoos is sin in the eyes of the lord because that's disgracing your body.My wife and i have all kinds of toys she uses all the time because of a bad car accident i got into and sometimes i just can have sex with her because of pain or medications i take..sex is the only natural thing we have left on this planet if you ask me.So go ahead and take yourself to town with you toys and enjoy yourself..just make sure you keep them very clean and use alot of lubrication to avoid getting all red and sore..if you want a nice simple toy that does a good job my wife realy enjoys one called "Pocket Rocket" and "Lady Dragon" with those two you can have either minutes of fun or hours of fun..especially with the Lady Dragon because you just put it in and close you legs and lay back and it will be like heaven..that's what my wife says..and the one good thing she also says is that no matter what kind of toys she tries nothing can replace the real thing.so while you are dating and looking for a new love atleast you won't going out on dates all horny and making any mistakes..due to active hormones..lol
2007-03-19 18:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
I do not think this subject has not been touched in the Bible. Very conveniently omitted, without knowing persons like you may have a question.
Anyway leave it.
The only alternative is MASTURBATION. Husband and wife may get borded by having intercourse but masturbation will not be boring. - Erotic stimulation of one's own genital organs, usually to achieve orgasm. Masturbatory behavior is common in infants and adolescents, and is indulged in by many adults as well. Studies indicate that over 90% of U.S. males and 60 – 80% of U.S. females have masturbated at one time or another. Christian moral teaching condemned masturbation, but they are very regular in masturbation. Though the Churches still officially condemns it even the priests do it.
After this the toys may be tried. Many more new toys are being invented and there will not be any derth of this and you can have and ultimately fall in the trap of someone who will really help you in intercourse.
So it is a Cycle. Do not worry. There will be way for everything when you have a will..
2007-03-20 01:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with dating and having sex after your divorce is finalized. You have needs like anyone else. Sure, you could go for years without sex like some of the other people answering claim to have done, but why would you do that to yourself? The bible won't tell you this, but THERE IS NOTHING WRONG OR DIRTY ABOUT SEX, IN OR OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
The people who say they've gone without sex for 2 years, 10 years, etc. are crazy to me. I have trouble going a week without sex, I couldn't imagine a whole year, let alone ten! There would be nothing wrong with you just dating, and having your needs fulfilled. Nothing.
2007-03-20 16:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. I was single for 10 long years, and let me be the first to commend you on your abstinance! I say, toys are usefull. It's hard to concentrate on anything else when you are feeling that way. If they are getting boring, just remember, you'll get bored with a man too! Haha. It's true though. It does say in Matthew, that if you cant handle it,to get married. Not my best advise, but hey. You are trying to do the right thing, and I totally understand how hard it is. I hafta admit, I probably would have opted for a longer engagement myself, if not for this fact. It all worked out though. If you fail, forgive yourself.
2007-03-20 01:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is natural for peopel/humans to find another man and or a women attractive and even sexually attractive. Those are normal human feelings and emotions. But just like anything else that we do we need to learn how to control or urges. Just like eating, I am sure a lot of people would love to eat cake and chocolate all day but you cant or you will end up over weight and unhealthy. So you need to learn how to control what you eat. Just like your sexual desires. Of course we want to have sex all day ever day it is one of the best things on this earth. But we must learn to control it. Then when you do find that special someone who you can share that with again imagine how good it will be. Good luck
2007-03-20 01:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Forbidden1 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It takes some persistence to get a momentum on abstinence.
With momentum it becomes a lot easier. You get to know yourself alot better and when you learn discipline in one area you have it in other areas.
Your relationship with God can be closer and you are sharing something that's not easy to share.Let him in on your trials over this. follow the leads that come to you to learn from.
Our culture is awash in sexuality. Separating yourself from sex is harder than for an alcoholic to stay away from drinking establishments. By choosing abstinence you are learning to overcome conditioning by society, a great skill.
You will also have more energy for other things if you don't masturbate. Your mind Will create new passions for you.
When you do get married, your spouse will have your undivided attention without memories of sexual encounters in the past and comparisons cluttering up your relationship.
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Your bio says you are married. Is this Q part of your decision to get a divorce? I guess that's OK. Need to understand what we are getting into.
2007-03-20 01:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hmm. at the risk of sounding like a verse spewer, there is a passage where Christ spoke of, "in the old days when a man gives his daughter in marriage he does well but I tell you he that keeps her does better". This was the first reference to celibacy being a noble mode of life. Self gratification has always been condemned, old and new testament. How does the smoker who quits resist the urge to smoke, physical cravings are no match for will and grace.
2007-03-20 01:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Arnon 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Why would you want to resist it? Sex is a delightful part of the human experience, and it is foolish to forswear it for lack of a piece of paper containing two people's names.
2007-03-20 01:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
... Romans 6 :12 - 15 .. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body , that ye should obey in the lust thereof. Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin : but yield yourselves unto God , as those that are alive from the dead , and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God... For sin shall not have dominion over you : for ye are not under the law , but under grace . What then ? shall we sin , because we are not under the law , but under grace ? God forbid .................Surround yourself with activities that lets you think on God and His Word.. The world has a strong hold on all of us , and the world portrays sin as OK and no harm in it ; but as True Christians we must remember " we are not of this world ". Our love for The Lord is our "Rock" , our firm ground to stand on while the world goes its` on its`way .!! We need to go against the the things the world has instilled in us , such as sin doesn`t matter ,and "do your own thing ", and don`t worry about obeying God ! That's`where the world gets us in trouble with thinking that erodes our core values as Christians. It`s a tough struggle , but God is always there when you need Him , just call on Him for guidance! God Bless with strength ... Most of all ; remember, you are not fighting this battle alone !!!
2007-03-20 01:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry what the bible says.
It's only what a very narrow-minded man wrote.
We are human. We get hungry. Tired. Sad.
Why can't we get sexual? If we weren't supposed to think about it, then why is it part of our physiology?
2007-03-20 01:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by chrisj 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋