I know im asking alot of questions today but,
I took a girl on a date paid her way and she said she had fun. The next day I give her a ride home and on the way she says she's not looking for a boyfriend. I was a little ticked but I got over it. Well then I find out that she started dating this guy (her current bf) like 3 weeks after my date.So, If she said she wasn't looking for a boyfriend Why does she have one?? Im so confused.
2007-03-19 18:07:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her telling you she wasnt looking for a boyfriend was her way of letting you down easy...she wasnt interested in you and didnt want to hurt your feelings but this boy she is with now she likes thats why she has a boyfriend....im sorry it didnt work out with her good luck in the future
2007-03-19 18:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry and confused. She must have been testing the waters before jumping in. Unfortuantely for you, she decided on someone else. Her excuse of not wanting a BF right now was a "nice" way to let you down easy. Remember 2 things: After a date with a girl, if she's sensitive and considerate of others' feelings, she's not going to say that she had a bad time. Also, just because you paid for everything on the date, doesn't mean she owes you anything. Sorry...... but forget her and move on! You deserve someone who can be honest with you upfront!
2007-03-20 01:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't confused, u know the answer but r in denial. she just wants to use u, she's really saying, i'll let u do everything for me, but nothing with me, so if she said it'll be nothing, and u keep giving, then expect to get used, don't become the psyco guy, but just treat the next girl great (hopefully she deserves it) with abundant respect. one thing i tell guys, if a girl is a whore dont treat her like one: u have two options, show her that she's special and she deserves better than being a whore, or bypass her, and don't take advantage of her weakness, a lot of guys see girls' weaknesses and it causes the girl to b vulnerable, which leads to being bitter, females are very emotional, we all are, but females wear their heart on their sleeves, be a gentleman to all woman, and they'll NEVER forget u, they'll oneday say, thats the perfect guy, but i missed it
2007-03-20 01:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by ilovehair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, a woman may not be interested in having a boyfriend at the moment and then a man whom is she is highly attracted to for a number of valid and invalid reasons arrives in the picture and there is a change of heart.
2007-03-20 01:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes say things like that because they don't want to be blunt and say they don't like you. Men and women both do that. And maybe she was looking for someone to have a one nighter with. Its the chicken way out, but everyone does it. Just because you "paid her way" doesnt mean she's indebted to be your gf. She may have just wanted to have fun. Guys do that to girls all the time.
2007-03-20 01:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She probably already had an idea of who she wanted. She just wanted to make sure she wasn't going to miss an opportunity by not going out with you. That or she was just hungry.
Either way I'm sure nothing's wrong with you.....you just weren't her match. btw. Women....as much as we hate to admit it, we love men of action. Men who at least try to get at us. Be a gentleman always of course, but show your desire for a woman (without committing a felony of course). Otherwise, you'll always get the friend chair
2007-03-20 01:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE, she totally DISSED YOU!!! That's the honest truth.
She did the old "I-dont-want-to-hurt-your- feelings" trick by lying to you about how she viewed relationships.
The funny thing is that she had the nerve to wait while you were DRIVING HER HOME. That means she wanted a free ride, but on the way, hoped to drop the bomb on you while the car was rolling.
She's not worth your time. Take it from me--I'm a girl/woman.
There's no need to be confused. She is clearly NOT INTERESTED.
2007-03-20 01:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by What gives? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is learning about herself and her likes & dislikes like most people are. So she spent some time with you and it was nice, but apparently the "chemistry" isn't there for her and you to be together. Nothing odd about it, that's life. Keep looking and keep positive. :)
2007-03-20 01:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing she just wasn't really into you. She wanted to break it to you in a nice way.
2007-03-20 01:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by baby_blue_eyes952002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you just picked the wrong type of girl,she just used you, you will meet some one nice , and you will know if shes the special one
2007-03-20 01:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋