I have been dumped by the last four girls I have dated. I meet women once maybe twice a year that I actually get involved with, and when they break up with me it really hurts my self esteem and confidence lots. It seems to take me so long to get back into the game or to find a girl that I really think is neat and then talk to her and not have things blow up immediately. It's so frustrating!
2007-03-19 17:59:54 · 10 answers · asked by joseph h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey playboy. Maybe online dating is for you. Sounds like it's more along your speed. You don't have to meet the girl until after you get to know them better. Don't feel bad. Not everyone is the Ladies Man. You may only need to meet one more girl to make the connection.
2007-03-19 18:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by C J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I think you should think through a few things before you try to find a new girl friend...there may be some things you are not seeing clearly.
For example....you mentioned "getting back into the game"...which sort of bothers me, because to me having a good and lasting relationship is not a "game"...it is a serious thing.
And have you asked for each of the four girls you dated...why did they break up with you? Did they each give you the same reason?....did they explain? If you really don't know, you need to seriously ask them for true explanations...even though you may not like what you hear...because that is the only way you can change things.
Perhaps you already know. It may not be you at all...but the girls you are choosing...who are also just playing at relationships, using it for what they can get out of it. Maybe it is both of you.
You see ...if you want a relationship that is lasting, the girl you choose matters. It is not going to be one that is moving from guy to guy. It will be one who is herself looking for that one person to make a life with....a totally different thing from playing games.
And the best basis for a lasting relationship is to form a strong friendship with her first...that grows into something more serious.
I have some reason to know, since I have been married to the same person I met when I was 15....now for 49 years. Taking time to find the right person matters.
That doesn't mean you can't date different girls. That's what dating is all about....but don't form serious relationship with them.....until you find that one girl who is going to really be the one. You are expecting too much of shallow relationships....and perhaps with shallow girls...and maybe there are some things about yourself that also need to change. Work on what those are.
2007-03-19 18:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be you. Try asking them what they didn't like about you and if the same thing comes up, then I would try to work on that. I wouldn't let it hurt my feeling though. We all are here to learn. What's better to do than to learn what's wrong with us and work on fixing it. I think we all have some type of issue. Mines is, I'm very out spoken and yet I keep running into these men that have not much if anything going on in life and I have to straighten them out. I am now working on choosing the right friends and keeping my opinion to myself most of the times. I'm learning that not all people have morals nor do they want them and that's up to them. Find out what they say 1st and then if they say it's nothing, then work on the type of people you are attracted to. Not all women like a good boy. But if you are a good boy, don't change to suit them, you'll find the right person after awhile.
2007-03-19 18:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is where I say, you have to start thinking about what their reasons are for not wanting to be with you. You may have to do a lot of work to fix whatever it is about you that keeps pushing people away. You should try a psychologist who might be able to help you figure out what it is about your personality that girls find they want to run away from.
Look at your parents and your relationship with them. Are they divorced? Do they not get along? Do they hide things from one another and put you in the middle? These may be things you need to look at in order to understand more about your own relationships with girls.
2007-03-19 18:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let love find you.Dont look for miss half right let her find you.Stop worrying maybe its just not time.What are the reason the girls keep breaking up??maybe you need some time alone so you can work on your hangups im sure you know what they are.No one is perfect.
2007-03-19 18:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have low self esteem... that's why I get drunk to meet girls.
But then I don't remember them either.
Anyways, just 'go for it' and see girls that you will never see again if you mess it up. Who cares about them, just think that you are better and that they are crap.
2007-03-19 18:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude it sounds to me like you have a bad case of small willy this makes women leave everytime try that male enhanser they advertise on tv then when they see what your packing they will run to you instead of from you believe me the bigger you are the hardewr they fall ha ha ha ha take care their tiny
2007-03-19 18:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by freeby1011 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've been hurt in the past .doesn't mean all girls are same.the one who is really made for you ill come soon .be patient and wait
2007-03-19 18:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no self esteem
2007-03-19 18:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Abolir Las Farc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes, it takes fate to let 2 meet. maybe they arent meant for you.
2007-03-19 18:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by croWnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋