My high school prom is coming up and I really really want to go. The problem is I'm an underclassman and only the upperclassman are allowed to go. But if an underclassmen is asked by and upperclassman, then the underclassman can go with them.
I'm good friends with an upperclassman and I know he really loves me and wants to ask me to go to the prom with him. His friends tell me this, my friends tell me this, and he makes it clear as day and makes no attempt to deny it when people say it. Everyone except my closest friends think I like him too. But I don't like him as anything more than a friend.
If I said yes to him when (if) he askes me would this be horribly selfish?
Brutally honest answers are not only welcomed but highly encouraged. Thanks guys!
2007-03-19 17:34:53 · 13 answers · asked by janedoe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I told him I'd go as friends would it be selfish? Because that sounds like a good idea.
2007-03-19 17:42:43 · update #1
If you say yes and then have an amzing time at the prom, it'll only make him fall deeper in love. You'd be leading him on and you'd find your self stuck between a rock and a hard place if you know what I mean. It sound like you care about your friendship with him and don't want to hurt him.
Here's what I'd do. When (if) he askes you tell him you'd be happy to go as friends. Make sure you say those words "as friends." Tell him you understand if he wants to ask someone else who is willing to be more than friends, but that you'd love to go with him as a friend. As long as he is clear that you'd be going as friends then, no it's not selfish.
2007-03-19 17:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember my high school prom. Even though I didn't marriage the guy I went with I still visit with him when I in my home town and class reunion. We both have found memories and still laugh about all the fun we had at prom.
I like him and I'm glad he ask me to prom. However, I wanted to go out with him. I didn't care if it was the prom, bowling, or seeing a movie. I think your question revolves around you like him but only as a friends, something he may not be aware of.
Ask yourself do you want to spend money on a guy (average $200.00) for someone who just likes you?? If you answer honestly you have your own answer, if you should go to the prom.
2007-03-19 17:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear jane doe
How could you do this and live with your self. Why would you want to go to a Prom with some one you do not really like. OK you really want to go . How can we not hurt him when he finds out. Go up to him and tell him you need to talk to him by him self. I would write it on a paper and read it to my self many times. Give it to him tell him he is a good friend but not a lover and would never be.You know after the prom he well be gone on his own you well never see him again. You are just friends with him would he be welling to take you knowing this. Good luck you can look in the mirror and still like your self.
2007-03-19 17:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you find out for yourself instead of relying on others to tell you he said this, she said this. You'll feel better knowing it came from him.Talk to the guy...be straight and don't beat around the bush...if you talk to him and say things like...I really want to to go to prom...are you going? Even if you want to keep this relationship platonic...keep an open mind as it may lead to the love of your life...you'll never know. Like I said...be straight...keep an open mind and things might just happen the way you want it to....if it doesn't...at least you got it from him directly and no one else.
2007-03-19 17:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by Rex P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be just a little selfish. If I were in his position I would rather go with the person i liked "as a friend" than not at all. So while you get to go, he gets to spend time with you.
2007-03-19 17:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Shayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me personaly i dont c the big issue about prom to me its just another party to attend so it would not be selfinsh its not like he is asking u out or anything like that
2007-03-19 17:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by deanyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be horribly selfish and cruel too.
Don't manipulate people's feelings for your own gain, it's really scummy.
2007-03-19 17:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be honest with him and just tell him how you
feel. The longer you wait to be honest witth him the more he is gonna be hurt you best tell him sooner if you cared about your friend.
2007-03-19 17:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asks you tell him really straight forward that you only want to go as friends, and tell him he doesnt have to take you if he wants to go with someone who likes him back. that way he can decide and you are guilt free
2007-03-19 17:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by slicexbread 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he LOVES you? you sound like a concieded little brat for even considering it just to use him. if you tell him it's just as friends it isnt bad, but dont go making him think you like him more than friends, that would make you a co.ck tease and there's nothing cool about them.
2007-03-19 17:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋