Christians: How can I defuse my anger?

Question

GIVE ME A LITTLE MORE THAN "JUST PRAY ABOUT IT"

Answer 1

I ride horses when I need to get away and clear my head.

You have to find your niche in the world. The one thing that takes you away from everything and allows you to think about nothing, absolutely nothing. That's what horses do for me. When I'm at the barn the entire world could fall apart around me and I would never notice.

Some people read, others jog, bike ride, hike, write,e tc. Find what fits you!

Answer 2

I mean Praying about it is the best way, Praying for strength and humbleness during times of anger and frustration can really help, The Father always comforts his children, I mean you can find other ways to defuse your anger but relying on the Father's help is a sure way that you will Conquer (Your anger) and Win over your obstacles!

Answer 3

Anger is a waste of time. It is unproductive and for the most part is belittling. By allowing anger to be a part of your life it takes away from may positive experiences you could be having. It is just such a waste. What does it really do for you?
If you don't want to be angry you are going to have to work on not being an angry person. Yes, prayer is a great place to find peace but you will have to work.

Answer 4

Anger isn't always negative. sometimes it can be good if it motivates us in a positive direction. The first thing is to find out what we are really angry about . Sometimes we hide this from ourselves. Be brutally honest with yourself . Then allow yourself some cooling off period . It's OK, just don't let things like anger or jealousy, etc make your decisions for you. You will be sorry later if you do.

Answer 5

I'm not Christian, but I'm going to answer anyways....
Here are some tips people often recommend:
1. Bring yourself from the back of the brain to the front. (Stop and think, in other words.)
2. Take a deep breath
3. Count to ten
4. Find another outlet for your anger. Exercise works wonders.

Answer 6

Our actions are under our control. We can be angry and CHOOSE not to act on it. I know you are thinking 'easy for you to say", but as a Christian you have a responsibility to be led by the Spirit, NOT by your anger or rage. And, sorry, but prayer is part of that. Also reading the bible and being in fellowship with other Christians and recieving prayer from them.

If this is anger towards another person you must forgive them. Remember, forgiveness is not for the person who wounded us, but for us to find peace.

I would seriously suggest you ask your pastor for guidance or counseling. He will have resources to help you. If you don't have a pastor GET ONE! ; )

Answer 7

Here's a little book with an extremely insightful perspective on anger that can provide a better understanding of the process of it and help you avoid some of the problem places it can lead to.

http://us.penguingroup.com/nf/Book/BookDisplay/0,,0_9781573222884,00.html

"Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh offers daily guidance for becoming free of the strong emotions that make us suffer the most.

Everyone wants peace, but as anyone who has tried to find it knows, the biggest obstacle is often our own powerful emotions. In Taming the Tiger Within, Thich Nhat Hanh distills the wisdom of his many books into short meditations and contemplations for applying his advice to daily life-for transforming anger, fear, jealousy, and other difficult emotions.

An acclaimed scholar, peace activist, and Buddhist master revered by people of all faiths, Thich Nhat Hanh has inspired millions worldwide. Now, he focuses his profound spiritual in-sight on the basic human emotions we all struggle with every day: anger, fear and love. Drawn from his national bestsellers No Death, No Fear; Anger; and Going Home and grounded in the Buddhist practices of mindfulness and compassion, this handbook of meditations and reflections offers readers inspirational and pragmatic techniques for diffusing anger, conquering fear, and cultivating love in every arena of life."

It's probably in your local Barnes & Noble.

As others have said, regular exercise can really help regulate all your moods. You might enjoy running, I find it really easy to pour my anger out and turn it into speed. You find once you've run a few miles you're just not mad anymore.

Something else that works for some people (although not so much for me). Just find something you can break that won't cause any real harm. Tear up a phone book. Collect glass jars from salsa, jelly, or whatever else and smash them up by throwing them into a box or something.

It might also help to get your emotions out by writing. Rap, poetry, other lyrics, or if you're not into words, then maybe music.

Go someplace and scream your lungs out.

Hope something out of this list helps.

Answer 8

anger is attachment to things in your life that you think are yours, that make your identity. But they are illusion. You are a child of the Light and no one can take that away from you. Then they are taken away or threatened to be taken away and you use anger to try to keep them. Be aware of yourself and when this comes up observe it.Give your challenges to God.It will then pass. It takes time.

Answer 9

As one who had to overcome my own anger and a trained professional counselor that teaches anger management.....Choose only to be angry with what you can constructively resolve. The key is choice as to what you are going to do with it. I almost killed a family member in my righteous indignation and chose to lose a now worth millions piece of Maui ocean front property. I chose to give it up and let him pay for his own sin. Incidentally it was not long after that I had my supernatural revelation that brought me to my knowledge of God.

Answer 10

Sometimes you have to get some additional help. I am not a big believer in drugs and I hate to take any that are not absolutely necessary. You have to be careful these types of drugs, but there are some that help to alleviate the need to get angry. Counselling can also help a lot.