I told my bf that I wanted to end our relationship about a month ago. we live together and still do, but in June, i am moving to another state. we have been dating for 4 yrs. i still love him very much but i am afraid that having a sexual relationship will make my decision harder to deal with when the time comes for me to move. I am very uncertain about our future... what should one to do? i love having sex in general, but i am still emotionally attached to my ex, so is it okay to continue sleeping with him and enjoy the last 2 months together or should i stop making it harder for myself???
2007-03-19 17:27:25 · 15 answers · asked by NLNLN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't understand the question. Sleeping with someone always involves some personal issues, whether or not they are current spouses or ex spouses or simply "friends". What you really need to do is understand your own emotions. You have control over how you react. So, if your reaction is to be upset, you will be. If your reaction is to enjoy the sex and enjoy the relationship as well as you can as long as you can...go for it. When you move, unless he follows you will be introduced to a new geography, new peoples, new opportunities...and new choices. Good luck. Enjoy.
2007-03-19 17:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The final decision is your to make. If you can sleep with him and keep your emotions out of it, I'd say go for it.
However, most women can't keep there emotions in check. Especially, when it comes to sleeping with your ex. Someone that you already have feeling for. If might make it that much harder for you to move out when the time comes. You may even start to question your decision. You ended it for a reason. Look towards the future and the new man you are going to meet . Good luck.
2007-03-19 17:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will make it harder but it will be hard anyways. Leaving someone you have dated for 4 yrs. is a long time to separate without some kind of feelings or sadness.
2007-03-19 17:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U definitely making it harder for yourself, but it clearly seams like y'all didn't really break up.
U still love him so no way can u sleep with him &feel unatached, or do so without letting ur love come inbetween...soo spend time with him, but outside the bedroom savor yall time together &develop a friendship.
U will leave with another friend in ur life, &happy memories to go with it.
2007-03-19 17:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the insanity! You can go mad with this cycle continuing. I would say to stop ASAP -- don't even sleep in the same bed anymore, or even the same room - if possible. You are really going to feel it down the line, and it's better to begin the healing process now. You are just prolonging the inevitable.
Best of luck!
2007-03-19 17:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Just Gotta Know... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on how "ex" they're - of course you 2 broke up at present. that is completely organic and favourite (no longer unavoidably correct or splendid) to have a super actual courting with somebody which you will no longer (stand to ) stay with. yet with time you will desire to lose prefer for them and prefer to pass directly to greener pastures with someone you could certainly build a destiny with. This looks no longer lots a ethical concern of correct/incorrect, as a functional concern - does it artwork for you (the two)? If there are ticking bombs waiting to pass off and wreck your renewed interest, they'd harm you worse than the unique breakup. do no longer confuse actual hearth for compatibility, ok. you ought to prefer to be certain a expert therapist or counsellor to artwork by your thoughts and conflicting needs.
2016-10-01 05:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by betker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either enjoy the sex or have a three some me my self and I. It is common for a women to have sex with her X as you know each other. You are comfortable with each other. If he is not sleeping around you well not get STD so just do not get PG and enjoy the sex for the sex.
2007-03-19 17:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's over now, let it be over. Things could get messy down the road. I think you should get away as soon as possible. There have to be reasons behind the seperation. Why you chose to move, why he's not going. Let sleeping dogs-sleep!
2007-03-19 17:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Teveren P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say...no Like you said your still emotional attached, it will make it harder for you to leave...Now if you can detach yourself, go for it, we all need a little enjoyment in our life...were not dead...Good Luck with your move........
2007-03-19 17:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have sex with him while you can, if u stop for the 2 months its not gonan stop the feelings u have for him, so enjoy it while u last, and let me know when u move to connecticut!!!!
2007-03-19 17:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋