Me and my boyfriend had a fight last night, about me meeting his family, he said I will meet them, but he needs time, and I shouldn't push him, and he saids I dont trust him, and he feels hurt, we been going out for two years, and we plan to get married and have kids, he treats me like a goddes, and he's always there for me, and he never beats me, I feel bad that we had a fight, I told him I loved him, and he means more to me then my life, and I told him I loved him with all my heart, but I want to do more, I have no money , but I want to show him I love him, and I trust him, I was thinking of planing a picnic, cause he is bringing over his new pit bull puppy, who is named buddy , and anyways do you think the picnic would show him, I care, I want to do something sweet , and to tell him he is my world. Anything else I can do. I just hate myself right now. Please help. And please no rude ideas
2007-03-19 17:13:23 · 8 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told me why , I cant say , but he really dont like his family
2007-03-19 17:22:52 · update #1
That is a tough situation there.
You see, he is a great guy. You obviously think very highly of him, am I right? Make sure you tell him how you feel about him. Never skimp on the little nudges or small "I love you"s
Just don't go overboard on them either. Lol. I think a picnic is a great way to show your appreciation. It comes from your heart and if he loves you back, he will love the idea also. Make sure to bring a treat for buddy too! Maybe there is a reason he doesn't want you to meet his family. They could be terribly embaressing people to him, or it could be as dumb as he is afraid you will judge his family. There is a large aray of things he could be fearful of. Just address the problem to him later, WAY AFTER THE PICNIC. If he rejects your bridge of communication, then drop it. No sense in smacking a bruise, right? Don't hate yourself. Go to bed or take a quick nap. You will wake up refreshed and maybe even with a new outcome on the problem.
I hope this helps!
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2007-03-19 17:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by CoUnTrY mUsIc FrEaK-a-ZoId 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. Guys that don't like their families could be trouble, if not now, later in life. Don't push him, but he probably has a past to hide from you that he is ashamed of. Not a good sign.
Maybe he does not trust you. Or maybe he does not think you are ready or mature enough.
Maybe he is not ready to get that serious with you.
Dress sexy and be sweet. Yes a picnic sounds nice. Show him a little more skin while on the picnic.
2007-03-19 18:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly yeah, a picnic sounds like a good idea. It's really really cute actually, I wish I had a girlfriend who would take me on a picnic! Get some really nice sandwhiches, find out his favorite snacks. go to a nice pretty setting and have a picnic. That would also be perfect for the new dog and everything. You could run it around and play with it and it's also a good time to tell him how sorry you are for the fight and how much he means to you and all that good stuff :) goodluck and godbless.
2007-03-19 17:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. What did you do that was so horrible? Last time I checked, it took at least two people to create a fight; assuming you both apologized, and the reason for the fight was silly, let it go. Invite him over for a nice dinner, and continue with the good stuff. If the reason for the fight is likely to creep up again, then communicate openly. If this isn't possible, then you know what to do...
Good luck.
2007-03-19 17:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is weird that he won't let you meet his family after 2 years. I think the picnic would be sweet. You should think about you want to say to him beforehand. Be sure to bring a present for Buddy.
2007-03-19 17:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by loudmouth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for what you are going thought but it sound like you
have a bigger problem then trying to make feel like you
trust him. the question you need to be asking your self
if after 2 years with this man you have not meet his
family. that a problem. if you are the love of his life.
then what the real deal. you dont need to push . this
should be something that he want his family to meet
the love of his life.
2007-03-19 17:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh... ok. Seems like he has problems within his family life. Well, don't jump into the family situation if you're not involved. Make him feel good outside of his family life. Help him cope with his own emotions about his family. Don't push it.
2007-03-27 11:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by DreamXGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u havent met his fam, and been goin out 4 two years? why??
well, my bf hasnt met my fam. we've been goin out 4 a yr. and he's getting frustrated cuz he wants to meet them. the main reason i havent introduced them, is i think its goin to b really akward. maybe thats wat he feels too. and about the picnic, yeah it sounds sweet, just make sure to check the weather lol..
maybe u can tell him that you would like to go to dinner with BOTH of your fams. so they can meet, and you can take your relationship to the next level
good luck
2007-03-19 17:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋