2007-03-19 16:52:17 · 11 answers · asked by Vovó (Grandma) 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Treat her as an equal child. The same way you treat your son or any daughters you have. Respect her, her home, and her relationship with your son. There probably are things about her you don't care for, but your son chose her to be his partner, so she can't be all that bad. Remember, she loves him as much as you do, although in a different way. Support their marriage and the bond they have made. Don't speak badly about her to your son, and don't let him speak negatively about her to you. Remember, if she wants your opinion, she will ask for it.
2007-03-19 16:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by n2mama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation. I am soon to marry a man whose 15 years older than me and has 4 children. His daughter is 6 years old. Their mom sort of baled out on them so this is hard for them to cope. Well, I don't ask them to call me 'mom'. Mainly since the oldest son is 7 years younger than me. LoL. Okay, I get along great with the two oldest boys but it's been a bit delicate with the daughter. I have a 3 year old so this makes things a bit easier. I would suggest, from experience, that you give her time to get to know you and trust you. Remember, that you are NOT her mother therefore you cannot make her see you as this. You can help in decision making with discipline but you would have to mostly leave it up to her father but he will need your help. It's hard, I know, being a step-mom but you have to take it day by day. Always keep that door open for the child to trust and love you. Love him/her as if they were born from your own womb. I love my stepchildren and so does my daughter. Be patient and diligent and you will get your reward. I did the day that my stepdaughter told me that she loved me and gave me kiss on the cheek before going out to play. Good luck to you.
2007-03-19 17:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by #2 on the way! due 12/28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is kinda interesting.. usually the daughter-in-law is the one who wants to win the love and tust of the mother-in-law...
respect their decisions as husband and wife but be there for guidance or for advice. share a family recipe secret or something that would make her feel welcome..
good luck!
2007-03-19 17:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by speak_your_mind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mother-in-law and my father-in-law in a car accident. I was VERY close to my mother-in-law. She was just a sweet person. She was helpful. but not in my business. She gave advice, but wasn't offended if I didn't take it. She treated me like a daughter. She was one of my best friends.
2007-03-19 17:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive, but not overbearing. The love and trust will come in time. Respect her home with your son and respect the decisions they make, even if you disagree. Try not to meddle.
2007-03-19 17:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two daughters- in- law. I treat them both like they are my biological daughters. I believe that they both love me.
2007-03-19 16:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've got self assurance for you, my buddy. I even have evil mom-inlaw who has consistently distrusted me. Mine grow to be arranged marriage and had no wisdom of grotesque spouse-to-be and her harpie mom. She is such hateful that she has spit upon me many times in my very own residence and stolen funds from my wallet as quickly as I sleep. So desperate am I that I extremely have taken to drink alcohol whiskey each and each evening to ease soreness of the horror such is my existence.
2016-10-02 10:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by heiselman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk less, offer a helping hand when she works, buy gifts sometimes. Talk respectfully infront of others. Don't let her down in any case
2007-03-19 17:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by Just4YA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say "call me mom" and tell and show her that you accept her. If they have a little fight or something stupid if you take her side it'll make her feel good.
2007-03-19 16:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by kadan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be nice... geez... dont pry or intrude and dont down her or her decisions. Go out to dinner or make dinner together... do something that you both enjoy.
2007-03-19 16:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋