So my girlfriend of one years, tells me that she has been feeling overwhelmed and that living together she felt trapped and can't do anything. I have never stopped her from doing anything because I dont want to be that kind of boyfriend. She says she wants space and she wants me to move out so she can be by herself. I don't want to go back to having a scheduled relationship and I loved seeing her everyday. She says she loves me, but she thinks that our love has grown apart because we haven't done all the other things in life. I told her that kind of stuff takes money and time. We both work 40 hour jobs and have bills to pay. We don't make a glamourous amount of money and we can't always afford to go out and eat. i explained we do the best we can, but i just cherish the small amount of time we have together. So I've come to explanation that she's not ready to grow up yet and she wants to go back high school days and hang out with friends and party. But I need you opinions!
2007-03-19 16:38:57 · 10 answers · asked by Marcus M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is easier said than done, let her go. I would put money on it that she doesn't know what she wants. She probably had unrealistic expectations on the relationship and when both of you had to grow up it wasn't what she expected. Let her go and if she comes back you know it was meant. And for the record, she does love you.
2007-03-19 16:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
give her the benefit of the doubt. best thing you can do is try to ignore her now let us see what happen next. sometimes girls are just catching up to those days they've missed (adult hood) but let her first now realize your importance to her life. as you mentioned she hasn't completely grown up yet so, give her space to mature and when the right moment comes as you still feel the same way - win her back.
you have nothing else to do if that was her decision she wants you to move out - give her all the freedom she wanted.
seems you are a nice person , i know for sure you will soon find the right women for you who will truly love and appreciate all the good deeds your giving.
once she notice that your not focusing your attention to her. HUH! lets see what's she'll gonna do..maybe she now feels full of hatred, jealousy and become conceited on her part now.
then, if everything works out as planned - she'll ask you to move in with her again.
lets check out and find out.
wish you luck and take care! spread the love.
2007-03-19 23:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have already answered your own question. I suspect that she is scared of having such a deep relationship and wants to go back out and enjoy life as things with you's have been too serious. I would tell her to move out seeing as though she is the one who wants the break and get another friend to move in with you to help cover the bills. Sounds like it's just a cop out and she wants out. Let her go if she's not into you then go and find someone who is but make her move out.
2007-03-19 23:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me, that she rather live apart than living together, give her that space she wants. and since she wants out let her move and you can find a friend to move in. and you can always find someone else that will give you the respect you need. and is not afraid to make a commitment, good luck.
2007-03-19 23:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be asking for more of your attention, wanting you to treat her special, even without a lot of money. Plan something wspecial and romantic. Surprise her with sexy phone calls, a negligee. Let her know the spark is not gone! We women crave attention and reassurance not comfy sitting on the couch.
2007-03-19 23:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by auntgrace 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One persons love can't keep a relationship going. Try your best to rekindle the love but if she resists then let her go. It will save you from any ugly incidents and further heartbreak later on. Btw I'm totally appreciative of you being such a good boyfriend.
2007-03-19 23:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your right but she should move out not you because she's the one who wants to play.
2007-03-19 23:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants out of the relationship and is letting you down easy.
2007-03-19 23:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
respect her decision to have space and she will appreciate that and in the end you guys relationship will be better because she will then know that u respect her boundaries
2007-03-19 23:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rickita P 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this one's over. sorry. time to move on!
2007-03-19 23:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋