Its come down to this...we are sleeping in separate bedrooms, hes been ignoring me...weve been dating since December. His roomate ended up finding someone to pay cheaper rent, so by default he ended up here...i was against it from the beginning. Since hes moved in, hes been 100% different...not affection, or anything. He was gone on a trip and when he came back i saw condoms in his see-through bag...i confronted him and he said they were old, he was right...after that i ended up going drinking in the daytime and when i came home he said i smelled like alcohol and was just disgusted. I found out he has been with prostitutes, that kind of bothered me...anyway the point of the story is that this weekend i got drunk and cried for 2 hours, he felt like i didnt pay him attention at the club we were at...he ignored me for 2 days...he is 34 years old. I love him, i feel like ive made stupid mistakes and treated him bad...he said it wasnt what he expected and he wants to be friends...
2007-03-19 16:33:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said that everything about me is bad, that hurt...he also said he wants to be patient and im nice...i asked for a second chance...he just acted like hes given me too many, he said time will tell. Is it over?
2007-03-19 16:34:58 · update #1
Why would you even want him back?
Everything you said above was things bad about him, nothing you did wrong...so why are you begging him for forgiveness. Didn't he have the condoms? Didn't he ignore you? Has he shown you any love? ...come on. Don't be stupid or naive. Tell him to get out and go on with your life. Why would you even want him?
2007-03-19 16:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is, do you really want him back? You should only be in a relationship with someone who respects you, and doesn't put you down. I mean, he's been with prostitutes? Who knows what disease he's giving you. (e.g. the HPV virus can be transmitted even with condoms) If you didn't agree to the move in the first place, then why is he there?
At the same time, you need to take care of yourself. Maybe it's good to be single for now and remember how special you are. You deserve better. You need to treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
2007-03-19 23:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Selene L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all. you need help. i don't mean this in a bad way, but you are extremely Co dependant. You will NEVER have a working relationship unless you work on your self. second. your man was cheating on you, guys do not just keep old condoms in there bag. I'm a guy I know. why would you want to be with a guy who dis respects you so much that he is willing to risk your life by sleeping with other women while he's sleeping with you. condoms are not 100% however some STD's are deadly. Last why are you settling for a loser. this guy is 34 and doesn't have his own place, and I'm willing to bet he can not afford it even if he wanted his own place. set your standards higher. this guy is a manipulative loser tell him to go f*** himself.
2007-03-19 23:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by job e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over. You most definitely deserve better, and this is coming from someone you've never even met! Someone who has only read a paragraph of what you have to say.
Don't put up with cheating..Dont put up with people who put you down or arent ambitious.
You're young and can do much better!
Its a hard lesson i've had to learn a few times...
Please take my advice though... you can do way better!
2007-03-19 23:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by DeepTranslation09 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is 34 years old, he needs to grow up FAST. He sounds more like a 19 year old. He's immature, and you need to get away from him, and don't have sex with him beacuse for all you know he could have some STD from one of those whores he slept with. Dump him and find a better guy.
2007-03-19 23:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is a silent poison to you. It is probably holding you back from doing something wonderful, and finding someone wonderful. It is time to move on from an outsiders point of view. Dont keep this kind of relationship alive at all once you end it
2007-03-19 23:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sionainn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is really not good for you. He seems to be controlling, withdrawn and a cheat. Get rid of him now before you get deeped into this. Trust me, I got stuck with an uncaring and emotionally abusive loser for almost 10 years and I feel that I really wasted my time and probably missed out on someone better for me while I was wasting time with him.
2007-03-19 23:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by amoroushotmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it is over because of all the things you said in your short story the prostitutes is one thing the condoms is another and after he said that time will tell that means there will be some other girl in his life and you will no thats a no good luck
2007-03-19 23:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by shtopramen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like its over, the best thing for you to do is ignore him, try to make him think you dont care anymore, and make it look like you want to move on also, u might give him a taste of his own medicine and he might come crawling back on his knees for you. if u keep hounding him about being together ur just gonna scare him away more
2007-03-19 23:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and get over him - you should prefer to be all by yourself than put up with this crap from a so called man his age.
Do not put up with this any longer - at least you have seen his true colours before it became more serious
2007-03-19 23:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋