If your dead against say ' coke ' and your boyfriend does it, tells u the truth, but says if hes out with the boys he gonna do....how should i feel, should i accept that, cause apparently coke does nothing but wake u up?? he knws i hate it, never made that a big secret. Or these days coke is a big deal, so I should accept it and get over it???
2007-03-19 16:32:35 · 15 answers · asked by Sparkles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to be true to yourself... If you don't like strawberry ice cream, are you going to eat it? Okay, bad example, but you know what I mean. Why is it that so many people put up with things that make them uncomfortable?
Maybe you don't deserve better, only you can answer that. There comes a time when enough is enough. If more people would put their foot down instead on condoning it we would finally win the drug war.
I myself would not go out with a person that smokes, does drugs, has tattoos, lies, cheats, steals, or messes around on me... but then, I know I deserve better! Not that I'm all that, just know what I don't want in my life.
2007-03-19 16:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. You think sleeping with another person is a big deal don't you? Well what if he was doing that instead of coke? Would you just let it go? Coke is a drug so you are dating a druggie....you will get that reputation also, even if you don't do it and aren't around it. Trust me I know. My family found out my boyfriend did coke and thought I was on it too. It isn't going to do anything but mess your relationship up anyway, tell him to stop the **** or else you are gone.
2007-03-19 23:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by sss_1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't accept something that you're dead against. Cocaine (to stay with your example) is not a casual use drug. It's expensive, addicting and can lead to other bad behaviors, such as violence, etc. It's not like caffeine that you can buy to 'wake you up'. It's an illegal substance.
Accepting it is like accepting that you can go to jail if your boyfriend leaves some in your car and you get stopped for a traffic ticket. It's like accepting that if you have a child in the car at the time, they can be taken away by Social Services for the duration of the investigation...
Get the drift?
2007-03-19 23:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't have to accept it and just get over it.. That is some serious stuff! If you have let him know how you feel about it and just let him know your still his bro even though you hate what he is doing and that you will still hang out with him occasionally as long as no coke is invloved! He should respect that and if not then you need to reevaluate him because if he was your friend he would care enough to not do it around you!
2007-03-19 23:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a decision you will have to make-if it is something that you hate and he knows that he is not going to stop doing it for you-being nice is not a good enough reason to stay-how can you get over it when he tells you that he is not going to stop-do you think he is worth you staying in a situation that makes you unhappy-think if he have coke in his system you will have it in your system also-i hope that they don't test you where you work
2007-03-19 23:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. Do you want your children to be around that one day? As a mother of three, I would have to guarantee that you will not dream of having the father of your children be a drug addict.
You don't want messed up in that trashy world. Go get something better for yourself and your future children.
2007-03-19 23:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by JLB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a drug. drugs are bad. there is no cleaning that up.
you know what to do. you have your values and principals, you should not allow anyone (and i mean anyone) to make you question what's right. this guy does not care for you or your relationship. if he did he would try to get help, and would stop hanging with 'his boys'
with such strong convictions, you should step away from this and make room for the guy that believes in the same things you do, and who is not going to disrespect you like that.
if you stay, you are throwing away everything you have believed in.
2007-03-19 23:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by la21unica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that big of a deal, but it is a felony. If he ever got arrested he would be in some trouble and i don't think you would want to be in the car at the same time.
2007-03-19 23:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kevo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is nice "except for that"
go ahead and keep him, get married and then wonder where all the money is going.
when he can't pay bills, buy food, looses the car, you know those kinds of things will you still be willing to say he is nice except for that???
get out of this while there is still time!!!
2007-03-19 23:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whether you're willing to deal with the issue for as long as you're with him. if the problem is big enough to cause a break-up, then you might as well do it ASAP instead of waiting. if its ok with you, then just let it go :]
2007-03-20 00:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by miisty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋