He lost his job and is drinking a lot, taking pain pills too because he hurt himself on the job (not a major injury). Is no sex part of this program or just a lame excuse? Is there something else going on? We are 99% sure it's not another woman.
2007-03-19 16:29:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm... Any kind of stress can affect the functioning of his "area". Especially if he is taking pain meds as well. I think it really depends on the guy. Some guys can relieve their stress through sex, and some guys just dont want to put in the effort. Keep talking to him. Sometimes if you just talk to the guy and let him know you are there, maybe he could relieve his stress through talking. As for the drinking... that can DEFINITLY affect how he works. Drinking is a depressant. So if he is already depressed, drinking is putting him into a deeper hole. If possible, get him to slow down. Offer to go to a movie instead of to a bar. Offer to give him a back rub instead of a beer. Im 100% sure that my husband would never cheat on me, but when he gets stressed out, he doesnt want to either. Usually because he is stressed out with me. lol. I hope this helps sweets. Good luck
2007-03-20 02:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of things can affect the male libido (we're not nearly as strong as we try and make you believe, but you already knew that).
It sounds like your boyfriend/husband/significant other is going through some pretty severe depression. Depression has been shown in many instances to kill a guy's sex drive, so I wouldn't be surprised if that has something to do with it.
The drinking is definetely only hurting the situation, especially when combined with narcotics.
while I definetely recommend you should be careful about approaching him because he's probably a little unstable right now, you should try talking to him about getting some counseling, but no matter what, something needs to be done because he definetely is not helping himself right now.
If you feel like it's something you can't accomplish on your own it's okay to look for help. Talk to his family and friends, and you can also go see a counselor (alone, together, or just him, any of that could be helpful).
Regardless, make sure you do something.
2007-03-19 16:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Will 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pain pills and alcohol can both affect this area too, because they both have sedating effects on the mind and body. They are probably combining with the stress and compounding it.
2007-03-19 17:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nicegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stress can easily remove any and all desires from anyone, sex included. Give him time to recover from this difficult period in his life, he'll come around eventually.
2007-03-19 16:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Antoine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it can. if hes thinking about his job and stressed out about it,then it can put a damper on his and your sex life.but drinking wont make his job come back.if your with him,then you are who he really needs right now,to understand his pain.
2007-03-19 16:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you touch him and his stuff works like it is supose to the it is just an excuse but if it isn't working the way it is supose to then yes he is really really stressed been through this before if it work right just and excuse
2007-03-19 16:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by yo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah...hes probably not feeling too sexy after losing a job. alcohol doesnt help either
2007-03-19 16:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by ytrewq 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just suck his dick, he can't resist that. If he does, you know something is wrong. Wake him up to head.
2007-03-19 16:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by askyomomma o 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋