This is my moms 1st boyfriend since my parents split up (atleast i think it is) he seems like a pretty nice guy a bit of a suck up but seems like he might be a little genuinly nice. I just don't like him I've tried but when I see my mom put her arm around him I want to hit him in the head with a bag of change, tackle him to the ground and beat him until my hands hurt then kick him in the shins is this normal and how can I get over it
2007-03-19 16:18:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is normal. please give your mom a chance to find happiness again. if you tolerate him long enough you might find something you like about him.
2007-03-19 16:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hah. That is normal. Getting over it is something that will take a long time if it happens at all. You just have to accept that your Mom is moving on and wish her the best. It might help if you talk to him ( not your Mom or through your Mom but directly to him) and tell him about how you feel. Tell him you think he is genuinely nice, but that you feel the way you do, and it probably has nothing to do with him. Tell him the truth, and be honest in telling him you will try to get over it. It will likely help alot. I doubt it will produce any miracles overnight, but it will help getting it out in the open. At the least it will make him more sensitive of your position, and if he is genuinely nice he will make some efforts to help you accept him more.
2007-03-19 16:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very normal. my mom and dad divorced when i was 3 and now i am 30.; My mom met this guy and he was such a clean freak. he even had put a board in the garage and when i visit i can not park over that board because i might hit the something that is in the back of the garage. i wanted to slap him on the back of the head. But than i got to know him. Come to find out he really is a nice guy. He treats my mom with respect and she really does care for him. so i just bite my tongue when he does something, like the garage thing, that i do not like.If he treats your mom right and she is happy, i say give him a chance.try to get to know him
2007-03-19 16:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh man, been there. I don't know what to tell ya. My mom started dating before the split, and ended up marrying the guy. I hate him, but here's what you've gotta do. Realize that although it may seem like it's your life the new guys interfering with, your mom may just be trying to move on with hers. Also, if seeing them together makes you feel uncomfortable, try distracting yourself. When talking to the guy, try to keep a straight mind, because there is a great chance that he is sucking up. None the less, u can use his "suck up" method against him buy milking it. Just remember to always be grateful for what he does and focus on his good qualities. After all, you and him share one common thing it sounds like, you both care about your mom an awful lot and he's trying to make her happy
2007-03-19 16:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a mom...I think it is pretty normal. Obviously you see something good in this person or you would have definitely made your point to your mom. If your mom is happy perhaps that's the view point to look at it from, at least until you can really find a reason to not like him. Be happy for your mom!
2007-03-19 16:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Grace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal feeling. You love your dad and you only want to see your parents together. It's hard to see them with someone else. Ask your mom to keep the flirty stuff to a minimum around you because you are uncomfortable. Give it time and you'll get to know him better. After a while you may get more comfortable seeing him with your mom.
Hope all goes well.
2007-03-19 16:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do one better, When he is inside, go outside and slash all his tires, pour sugar in his gas tank, and then bash his window in with a brick.
1). you could also plug his muffler with a potato
2). cut the brake lines to his car
3). take a stray dog and then lock it in his car.
4). Take a smoke bomb, light it, then throw it in his car and then lock the door
5). You can tie a rope to his back axle then tie the other end to the trash cans and then let him drive away
6). Cans of paint...they have so many uses
just be imaginative, have fun and laugh all the way to the bank.
2007-03-19 16:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Just think about your mom being happy. You don't want her to be alone for the rest of her life, do you?
2007-03-19 16:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by sss_1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal enough. Be decent to him for your mother's sake. You'll have the pleasure of knowing you're doing something for her, for once. How much has she done for you?
2007-03-19 16:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you are fair in telling us how stupid you are.
You don't even take your mom's feelings into this.
2007-03-19 16:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋