Me and the guy i love dated for 6 months. I found out he cheated on me and we broke up.I couldn't forgive him for hurting me but we often talked about getting back together because he always told me how much he loved me and how bad he had messed up. Iv never really been one to talk to people about how i feel but when i couldnt go on anymore I had one best friend who i told everything and she knew how much i loved him. She always told me he wasnt worth what he put me through. Once we started talking again we went on a double date. 2 weeks later he broke up with me again. A week later my friend and him start going out. They went out 3months and he dumped her becaues he wanted me back (i rejected him). I lost my best friend to the guy i loved more than anything in this world. This was 2 years ago and i am now 17. Everytime I get to close to a guy i dump him with fear of getting hurt again. Its got to the point guys dump me before i get the chance to maybe dump them. How can i get over it
2007-03-19 16:08:10 · 7 answers · asked by CountryGirlygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If i could i'd give you a big cuddle! It'll take time to get over it. but don't block yourself away, i'd say try not to be afraid of being hurt but everyone is. When you do find a new guy, take it very slow and easy, that way you'll have enough time to figure out how you feel for him, how he feels for you and if he can be trusted. And do tell him your fears, don't do the 'if i tell him he'll dump me' coz if he duz, your better off without him any way. if he knows why your scared he shud do his upmost to make you feel comfortable. Believe that you deserve better, know that it was him that was in the wrong. And don't try to rush into anything. Give youself as much time as you need to sort this out in your head, don't hide it away, coz it'll never dissapear. You'll be ok. It will take time, but you will be ok. :)
2007-03-19 16:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lifeless Energy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a serious problem...You need to have the confidence in yourself or no one else will...Its the worse when someone you love betrays the bond you once had, but on the flip side its the best when things are what you have always dreamed they would be...and thats what you need to strive for...its so worth the effort to be loved as you love another...so much so that the hurt has been worth the effort..I don't think your heart allows you to be as hurt as you felt during your first heart break...and the old saying what doesn't kill you makes you stronger , I think holds true to a broken heart...stop ruining your own happiness...good luck.
2007-03-19 16:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear after being hurt like that is hard to just overcome.
It takes time...more time for some...less for others.
You now feel you can't trust any guy and fear is anyones worst enemy. It can and will prevent you from the very thing you truly want most. Not every guy is a jerk and will hurt you.
It is not fair to judge and assume every guy will hurt or leave you. They are not him.
If you choose to never trust someone for fear of being hurt you will never open your heart and find the guy that would never want to hurt you or leave you and will always be by your side and that is...TRUE LOVE.
2007-03-19 16:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Intelfem7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your decesions based off your feeling and no one else's. The big bad guys are out there, start thinking about the type of man you wnt to start assoiating yourself with and maybe some of those old anxities will start not appearing because you are with someone more on your wavelentgh.
2007-03-19 16:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by HRcutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-03-19 16:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kno that there are other guys out there and he is not theonly dude out there but u should forgive him for cheating
2007-03-19 16:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by hotsuga92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell urself: "maybe this one could really work.....maybe he is the one...." or another thing is if they ask u out then say"no"
2007-03-19 16:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by jabob j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋