im not married and she is, shes 26 and has a small kid.
she always tells me how crappy her husband is and that she wishes she hadn't made that 'mistake'.
Shes kinda shy but always finds ways to end up with me after work in an empty office or whatever, we just talk but i can tell its getting to that point... she told me 2 weeks ago she doesnt cheat but then yesterday she agreed to meet me out for a movie and meal, but she said "we have to plan it...."
What do i DO?
2007-03-19 15:49:13 · 17 answers · asked by Its me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. she has por star looks. pretty but raunchy.
2007-03-19 15:49:44 · update #1
follow your gut, if she wants it and you want it go, just be careful. Be fair to the little child of hers.
2007-03-19 15:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by sillygirl227 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I wouldn't. She's your co-worker. Always a bad thing. Then, she's married. What if hubby find out? Besides, you would be in the middle of this mess. Let's say they will work it out, you're yesterdays News. Can you handle working with her? If they don't work it out, chances are you're not going to have a lasting relationship. because she's looking for a fix and nothing serious.
Sounds like a lose-lose situation to me. The choice, of course, is ultimately yours. Good luck with whatever you are going to do!
2007-03-19 23:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Landru50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why its perfectly ok if you dont mind first signing a waiver of being vengfull if her husband finds out and shoots you both.Youre destroying the child's home.Next.How long did you live with this couple?You believe everything she tells you?He may be a saint for all you know.Get HIS side of it first or you may end up with a woman who tells the next guy what a horrible monster you are and she will have to plan her date with him etc.Youre fixing to stick your head in a angry hornets nest son.Theres plenty of SINGLE women out there.Tell her you are sorry for her bad marriage and once she is totally divorced and on her own(some women just look for guys to support them while they controll the relationship), then and ONLY then will you consider dating her.Be a decent human being, remember there is a little child who loves both parents and wants them to be together.If you will be a decent human being, tell her to go to a marraige counselor.
2007-03-19 22:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. It'll be hot for a while, yeah. You'll have a great time together, things will go further and further, and then later, when it's all over, you'll both regret it in a big way. If she's so unhappy with her husband, the best thing you can do is to encourage her to work it out with him, or, if that fails, to divorce, if it's TRULY a bad situation. (Besides, if she does get divorced, you can pursue her guilt-free, and won't hate yourself in ten years.) Use your common sense, think ahead, and think of her kid. Good luck!
2007-03-19 22:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by LisE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know...if she said "we have to plan it" shes planning to cheat on her husband...and of course if shes telling you that she has a crappy husband shes giving you a clue that she want to get with you...but, be careful...
its totally up to you if your gonna go for it or not....
if your gonna go for it...be prepared...dont get caught if you just want to have sex with her....or dont get hurt...if you fall inlove with her you might end up hurting..and she'll just go back to her hubby after all....or maybe shes just using you for sex....or if you guys got caught from her husband then your in a big trouble...good luck
If you care about her a lot or maybe falling inlove with her...you ghotta do it in a mature way and in a right way....tell her that does she wants to be with you...if so...would she divorce her husband for you?!.....To be with you...if shes really telling the truth that she doesnt love her husband anymore or whatever crappy shes telling you about her husband.....we dont really know what shes thinking unless you tell her....and ask.....
2007-03-19 23:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by MizBeingCute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a different job or leave if you can earlier at night to avoid being in that damn office. Get away from this hornets nest. She will be dulling you and venting for years to come about the shitty controlling or whatever husband. IT WILL DRIVE YOU F@@KING NUTS! I guarantee you...........You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO TALK WITH AND DATE AND OR just in sack with, BUT pleaaaasssssssssssssseeeeeeee NOT HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU will end up in a MUDDY PIT and hard to get out of. TALK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE ON friendship level only.. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT sneak around with this gal..... do yourself a favor----- DONT!
When or if she does DIVORCE she will look at you to commit just because she left her silly husband........ YOU THEN WOULD BE THE JERK FOR GOING OH SH**! NO I CAN'T BE WITH YOU NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE DO NOT FALL FOR THIS GAL........CONTROL YOURSELF!!!!!
2007-03-19 23:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't. you don't need to be that desperate. it is worth getting killed over? what's it worth to you? you never know what might happen, maybe she has herpes and that's why she got married... you never know why she got married, and you never know what she's got. she doesn't care about him or herself for that matter, she has no dignity or self-respect, why would you even trust her? her husband shouldn't. it's sad. she's sad. don't be part of her sadness, move on. and if you even have to ask, that tells me you are more decent then most, and you don't have it in you to deal with what might happen. i would trust yourself, if you have any doubts, don't. you don't want that baby do you? it's a problem and soon it will be yours. nothing in this world is free. don't buy it. walk away.
2007-03-19 22:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by dumb & drummer 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reading these answers people are really shady and heartless. Just think, if you got married and your wife was doing the same thing she's doing to you, how would you feel? I wouldnt do it unless she was single.
2007-03-19 23:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by spiritofjosh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you ready to look at her at work everyday after the fact? its a heartbreaker. Ready for hubby hunting you down and being call daddy by the little one?
2007-03-19 22:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by mike62691 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like at the beginning of The Matrix: "... do it! Do it now!"
Dude, married or not, it's her problem, her decision and her mess. Not yours. Just don't lead her on or make empty promises. Sounds like good sex to me!
2007-03-19 22:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by stupid_dangerous_thoughts 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you ask her husband? If you were married, would you want your wife to do that to you? Answer those honestly and you should find your own answer.
2007-03-19 22:55:06 · answer #11 · answered by pixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋