(this is a re-post-need more input) How Can He Talk About it Like Crazy But Never Manage a Real Life Hook-Up??

Question

I know this guy who is 9 years younger and lives 2 hours away. We've known each other in real life for over year. Last summer, after we'd exchanged several emails, he began flirting online with me and the flirting became very sexual talk-about what he would like to do to me & have me do to him. I'm really attracted to him & would love to hook up. I think he's attracted to me as well. But we've never gotten together. Earlier today, we were talking about getting together later this week, but I'm sure for whatever reason it won't happen this time either. I'm really attracted to this guy, but I get tired of just talking about it. It's very frustrating. I know he's single and straight and I find it hard to believe that he's NOT attracted to me after saying the things he's said. He knows what I look like, etc. I'm not some random stranger he's met online. Can anyone give me any insight as to what might be up with him? Could he be intimidated because I'm older than him? What is his deal? :)

Answer 1

If he likes "real life" experience, he may just be nervous. Maybe the online talk is all he's really familar with or maybe he feels he has set a standard so high he can't live up to it. try talking to him about it and see what he says. If he keeps for much longer, start looking elsewhere for real life hookups.

Answer 2

2 hours is quite a distance. Do you both have cars?

Do you have a private place to hook up?

Maybe flirt more and start trying to work out the logistics of meeting him somewhere.

Answer 3

Maybe he is just a talker and not a gutsy kind of guy. Some people are like that. So just forget him and move on.

Answer 4

He's probably in a relationship and afraid of being caught, or afraid it may lead to a commitment to you.