PARENTS: Do you allow your teens to date?

Question

i know some people who parent's don't allow them to date and get into relationship, but they do it anyways. and the parents don't know about it.

also, are there any rules your teen(s) must follow if they are dating like no sexual activity etc....

Answer 1

in all honesty i think you are better off letting them date with some boundaries cause like you said if they want to bad enough they will find a way. at least if you let them you will have some idea of what they are up to. as far as rules and and boundaries every situation is different not all teens are alike you have to know your child. i think allowing them to date may show you that you trust them and you will get better results and the lines of communication are more likely to be more open.

Answer 2

My daughter is only 14 and she is not allowed to date. No boys are allowed to call or even come over.
I'll let her start dating when she is 17. By then she will be almost finished with school and she will be able to realize that school is her #1 goal right now.
I started dating when I was 17 and I didn't miss out on anything. I worked part time and went to school. I wanted more out of life then having a boyfriend. I hope my daughter is as smart.

Answer 3

I'm 15 and I haven't asked my mother about that.I had a boyfriend for a whole year(I was between my 14th and 15th year of age) and we dated of course.My mother knew about that and never tried to make me not to do it.There is nothing wrong with going out with your boy and having pizza or going to the cinema.Anyway my ex-boyfriend and I always went to his house(there weren't any adults around us) and watched TV or snuggled and cuddled.Later when our relationship deepened we touched each-other and did other things(anyway we didn't have sex because I didn't feel ready and I listened to myself,something which most parents can't teach their children to do) and we felt really happy with each other.I don't think that my first relationship was a waste of time or that I should have waited more.I learnt a lot of things about boys and relationships and I definitely grew up a lot during that relationship.So,YES,if my teen-daughter wants to date,I would let her.I would be even a bit worried if she asks me,because these days teenagers don't ask "Can I date?",they just want to date and they do it.

Answer 4

I think a child should date when you think he/she is responsible enough to be trusted on a date. What I mean by that is...they know when the curfew is, they stay in permitted dating areas, they respect your rules, they obey the rules that you set, etc. The age isn't the issue. You should talk openly about sex and dating. There should definitely be boundaries on what is appropriate behavior and what isn't. Allowing your kid to date is a natural progression and shouldn't be refused or denied. The issue of sex is going to come and should be talked about between you and your kid. Don't make it embarrassing like a class in school that you feel forced to explain, but don't pretend like the topic doesn't exist either and don't be your kid's "friend". I think dating is hard enough as it is and they need adult guidance on helping them pick the person that's right for them. They aren't going to find their soul mate at 15 years old; but they can learn to find someone they have fun with and who treats them right. If you make them wait until they are out of high school to start dating, they might have a long term relationship with the first person they meet and that person may not be right for them.

Answer 5

I was never much of the social flower in highschool but my senior year I had a boyfriend that I wandered around Disneyland alone with with him.

Now that I look back on it, I can't figure out why I don't remember why my mom didn't make a fuss about it... because she's crazy protective of me.

She never had to tell me not to have sex because I barely had any clue what it was back then.

Answer 6

If I were a mom of a teenager, I would not allow my teenager to date. I am sorry. Kids should start dating when they are 16 1/2 to 17 years old. That's when they have jobs, licenses to drive, are responsible, and about to graduate.

As far as the sex part, sigh...teenagers in our generation back in the 80's have been doing it against their parents wishes numerous times. Which explains the unwanted pregnancies. What teenagers lack today is self control, which is a reflection of their parents, who did the same thing in the 80's. And who is to blame for this kind of behavior?

Their parents.

Remember the old saying that "the apple does not fall too far from the tree".

Answer 7

13 could talk on the phone to boys, and sit together at church. Could also go out with parents.
15 could go on short drives with a sibling or a younger niece or nephew (who talks a lot)
16 dates alone to a public place 2 hours

Answer 8

depends on how much you trust them..
everything revolves around trust.

GOOD LUCK