I am in my late 20's and married to the love of my life. We've been together 9 years and married for 6 months. He is very handsome and treats me well. But I haven't had much of a sex drive for the last 2 years and now any more than once a month seems like a chore for me? MD's, counseling and therapy haven't been much of a help and I am feeling guilty, and like a bad wife because I am not attracted to my gorgeous, wonderful husband. Is it physical? Mental? Fixable? I have kinda given up on sex and almost now feel disgusted by it. Any serious thoughts and or help are appreciated.
2007-03-19 15:29:21 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
it can be physical ...emotional..
but it is fixable!
sometimes when you are with the same partner for a long period of time..the original thrill wears off....that's natural.
try to do something special together..that will bring the spark back....
go out on a date with each other. go to a nightclub....
go to a gorgeous hotel together..
go out and buy some toys to play with..
buy lingerie together.....
think of what turns him on..perhaps that will turn you on..if you let yourself really get into it....
try something new!!!
be adventurous...whipped creme..cheriies..etc....
have fun..laugh again in bed..and very soon..
you will see that it will all be enjoyable again for both of you.
all you are experiencing right now is a small slump...it'll pick up again..but you have to make it FUN!!!!
2007-03-19 15:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different amounts of libido, but there are a few things to keep in mind. One is that many medications will lower your libido, like anti-depressants, and basically the way to counteract that is to stop taking them. Another tidbit is that I once knew someone with virtually no libido who, for other reasons, went to the doctor and literally had a brain tumor. When that was treated, his libido returned. The moral is to have your doctor do a thorough physical. And finally, even though it may not be your favorite thing to do, you can still learn to enjoy it somewhat for the sake of your husband. But don't be critical of yourself. That is only self-defeating. There is nothing wrong with having low libido if it works for you, but there is everything right about wanting to reach a happy medium point with your husband. Good luck.
2007-03-19 15:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Larry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I can't help you because I AM YOU!! I'm watching for answers with you. I'm not sure why, either.
2007-03-19 15:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋