I can't deal with his friends anymore! One of them is moving on Friday, but I can't help but think even if he DOES leave, how will I deal with his other friends? They're obnoxious, and I can't think of one word to say to get them off my back!!
2007-03-19 15:28:23 · 11 answers · asked by ASIA :] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop retaliating when they say stupid things to you, that is exactly what they want. The more you bite when they throw out that line the more they will throw it out. You need to just laugh at them and pretty much ignore them and if that doesn't work tell your bf you want to see him without his mates always being around. My bf's mates are obnoxious and they used to get to me until i just started laughing at them and ignoring them when they went fishing for bites and now we are all good mates.
2007-03-19 15:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of creative ways to run them off one by one. Eventually, after so much of you being a b****, they will quit coming around so much. If these guys are true asses, they need to scurry along anyway. Don't feel bad about it either. Been there before.
One thing to remember though, the biggest rule of them I have found in life is Birds of a Feather Flock Together, why is he hanging around these jerks anyway? Good Luck girl!!!
2007-03-19 16:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you really like this guy? I'm afraid guys and their friends are not easily parted. They probably view you as a threat to their friendship with him.
Maybe you could help find girls for them. Then they wouldn't bother you so much. But in general, guys stick together pretty much, and girls aren't very successful trying to break them apart. That goes even after you're married. So if you really like him...learn to like his friends. Sorry...but good luck!
2007-03-19 15:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by thankamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds more like a problem that your boyfriend needs to deal with, rather than you. And this actually reminds me of a situation that my best friend and her [now] husband dealt with a couple years ago (for the sake of making this as easy as possible, we'll call my best friend "Candie", her husband "Bobby", and his best friend "Mark"):
Bobby's best friend at the time (Mark) had a problem with Candie dating Bobby. So Mark made life really hard for Candie, and Bobby would not stick up for her. They ended up getting engaged, and she thought that Bobby would change his priorities from his best friend to his future bride--needless to say, he didn't. She finally got so fed up with always having to deal with the problems between her and Mark (and not having Bobby stick up for her), that she told Bobby that he needed to choose between his best friend and her. It's sad that it had to come to that, but it ended up changing the dynamics of their relationship. I guess that was the little push he needed to realize that things were affecting Candie more than he believed.
The point is, if your boyfriend really values your relationship and you talk to him about how his friends' behaviors are affecting you (and ultimately, your relationship with him), he should be willing to step up and tell them to knock it off. And looking at the long-run, if this is someone you really want to be with for the rest of your life (and he reciprocates that committment), then that means he needs to be ok with being your "protector" from now on.
Talk to him about it, and see what he says...:)
2007-03-19 15:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tryn to ask your beau to ask his friends and tell them n ot to be like that towards you. Tha way they amy be able to understand your feelings of getting uneasy whenever they are around.
2007-03-19 15:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by pyrrhus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell his friends to leave and if they dont leave then go for a walk and it will relieve some stress
2007-03-19 15:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make him choose between you and his buddies. let him have some time with the doofuses but also insist on some time alone with him, away from them.
2007-03-19 15:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by njyogibear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend to make them leave you alone,
if he cares about you, and your feelings, believe me, he can make them shut up easily.
=]
2007-03-19 15:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever seen "Saving Silverman"?
Maybe your the out-sider!
Are you his friend?
Be nice!
2007-03-19 15:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by ☆♥•´`•.¸ ;-) •´`•.¸ ♥☆ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you havent told him yet, you should tell your boyfriend. and if he doesnt do anything about it you should talk 2 him again and then if he continues not to do anything, hes probably not worth it..
2007-03-19 15:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋